Brady didn’t bring up Wednesday’s little incident so neither did I and we made plans to barhop with Carly, Chris, and Preston on Saturday night. We met at their duplex for some pre-bar beers.
“How are you?” Brady greeted me with a kiss. He handed me a beer and the five of us stood around the kitchen drinking.
I could tell by the way Brady was boisterously telling a story that he’d enjoyed some beers even before we showed up.
“Whatever you do, don’t let me stay here tonight,” I whispered to Preston. Brady was clearly going to be drunk and so would I. That could only end one way.
Preston rolled his eyes. “Are you still pretending you don’t want to fuck his brains out? I’m so sick of this charade.”
I didn’t have a chance to answer as Brady was approaching us.
“You look really pretty,” he said snaking an arm around my waist.
“Doesn’t she? I picked this dress out for her like a year ago. She was going on a date with an NFL player. He actually turned out to be married,” Preston said.
I turned and gave him a discreet, but “Have you lost your damn mind?” look.
He cackled and said, “I’m going to get another beer.”
We took a cab to a street of bars Chris suggested. He bought us a round of shots then Brady bought us a round of shots. Preston and I ran off and got vodka Sprites, people watched, danced and stood at the bar being obnoxious. I started talking to this guy who was kind of douchey but really hot. We were kind of playfully bickering back and forth about whose college was better (he went to Ohio State so I don’t even know why I entertained him). I pretended to be mad and turned my back to him, dismissing him.
He touched my waist and said, “Here, let me buy you a drink.”
I turned to accept his offer when I heard someone say, “I’ll buy her drinks tonight. Thanks though.”
Brady slipped in between me and my douchebag friend and said, “What are you having?”
He didn’t let me out of his sight after that. The three of us hung out for a little while until Mr. Murphy showed up to pick up Preston.
“Ugh. You were supposed to be my babysitter tonight,” I told him.
Preston kissed me on the cheek. “Do it tonight, darling. He wants you so bad.”
Obviously Brady wanted me and I wanted him too, but not when we were both trashed.
Our night turned into a double date and the four of us went to a few more bars then took the obligatory trip to Taco Bell (the quesarito is phenomenal, def. recommend). We went back to their place and hung out in the dining room. Brady was being super affectionate and kept pulling me on his lap and kissing me. It was the complete opposite of the Brady I know, but I loved it.
Eventually Chris said he and Carly were going to go smoke and asked if we wanted to join.
“Reese doesn’t smoke,” Carly said, matter-of-factly.
Out of all the things I’ve tried in my life, weed has not been one of them. I don’t know why, but it’s just not my thing. I only recently found out that I’m probably the only person in the universe who hasn’t at least tried weed. Even straightlaced Kendra smokes from time to time.
“You don’t smoke anything?” Chris clarified as if that’s so unbelievable.
I shook my head. “Nope.”
Carly and Chris headed down to the basement and Brady and I went to his bedroom. We made out and fooled around for a while. I made sure to keep my clothes (mostly) on, but I felt like I was back in high school. I remember making out with boys in my basement and being worried about my parents coming downstairs.
We took a break and sat there next to each other.
“You’re so different when you’re drunk,” I said.
“So are you,” he replied.
“Well, I know that.” I thought about how I was trying to hide Drunk Reese when actually Brady had a drunk alter ego too.
“I like you either way,” he said.
“I like you either way too, but you’re so reserved when you’re not drunk.”
“I’m sorry not everyone can be as gregarious as you all the time.”
I smiled. “But you can be sometimes with just me.”
“I’ll work on it.”
Brady paused for a moment and I sensed he was going to say something so I was silent.
“We’re having this charity gala at work next weekend. It’s like a dinner thing. Do you want to go with me?”
I was already computing an outfit, shoe and makeup budget.
“Is this Drunk Brady or Sober Brady asking?” I couldn’t help teasing.
“Both,” he smiled.
“Okay,” I said.
So I need to schedule an emergency shopping session with Preston to find something for Brady to show me off in.
We started kissing again and ended up in the same position we were on Wednesday – Brady on top of me, shirtless with his belt undone. He reached under my dress and tugged at my underwear. I knew if he got them off there was no going back.
“No,” I said really quietly, hoping he wouldn’t hear me. I desperately wanted him to keep going.
“No?” Brady repeated, looking at me. He had the most concerned look on his face and it was so adorable.
I shook my head reluctantly.
“Okay,” he said and climbed off me. I watched him change into a pair of shorts and go into the attached bathroom. I hoped he wasn’t pissed.
I got up and found a t-shirt in one of his drawers, changed, then got in bed. I was just going to pretend to be sleeping. A moment later Brady climbed into bed and spooned me. I actually did fall asleep after that.
When I woke up, my mouth was dry and I had a migraine. I reached over to pull myself closer to Brady, but his spot was empty and I was alone in the bed. My phone was nowhere to be found and it was light outside but it didn’t look like the sun was out so I had no idea what time it was. I rolled over and fell back asleep for thirty minutes or three hours, I have no idea.
Brady woke me back up.
“I got breakfast,” he said, standing over me.
I immediately rose up hearing that there was food. “Give me.”
He laughed and presented two styrofoam takeout boxes and handed me one. There was a mound of french toast topped with berries and whipped cream in it. It’s like he can read my mind. I popped a berry in my mouth.
“You know me so well,” I said.
We sat in his bed and ate then laid there for a few hours talking. While talking to him I decided that I thought I was ready to have sex with him, but only as long as we were both sober. We aren’t exclusive or anything (yet), but it’s bound to happen right? Plus he’s taking me to that work event so that means something. I need dress ideas!
hot mess in high heels. 
WTH? Why are you playing games with Brady? That’s the second time you’ve stopped him. First time you pulled a disappearing act, this time you pretend to be asleep. Why can’t you be honest with him? He was probably drunk to take the edge off. Of course he didn’t mention the other night. That would be awkward for him. Also if you like Brady so much why are you flirting with other men at a club? I’m actually feeling bad for Brady. He needs and deserves honesty. You can’t start a solid relationship without honesty and trust.
I’m not playing any games.
Why… are you such a judgmental douche?
my thoughts exactly.
Reese and Brady aren’t exclusive at this point. She is free to do as she wishes, just as he is. I don’t see anything wrong with what she’s doing. Friendly flirting is perfectly harmless regardless (Also, free drinks are always a bonus).
Reese doesn’t need to have sex with Brady until she’s ready and I don’t think she owes him any explaination why unless she wants to offer it up. I don’t see any game playing or dishonesty here.
stop being a cunt. She’s having fun and figuring things out. RELAX.
I thought I was agreeing here that I didn’t think Reese was doing anything wrong? lol
I really don’t think that using the word “cunt” to describe another woman is EVER okay. I’m sure you’re educated enough to have other less derogatory words in your vocabulary.
D, whom ever you may be I apologize for the confusion…I was referring to judith with my cunt comment…and yes i could’ve used a various amount of words. But i didn’t. I use the word when necessary and I felt it was necessary, STRAMBLINGS.
I love Brady! Can’t wait to hear about the gala, this blog is addictive 😁👌
thank you ❤
Agreed!
I wouldn’t count my chickens til they hatch. Brady seems like a great guy. However, I wish you would have told him why you ditched him. He deserves that much. You can’t brush issues under the rug and hope they disappear. Instead of focusing on finding the perfect dress and looking cute at the work event, address the elephant in the room. High end designer clothes, shoes and makeup won’t make him like you more. But telling him your rationale for not wanting to have sex and leaving him the other night might. Just my $0.02
are you calling me fat?
Lol
Lol. I hope you’re kidding. I agree 100% with Denise.
I like that you were able to stop things, well done! But I do think you should try talking to him about it, just put yourself in his shoes. He’s probably like wtf?? Hahaha
Just remember honesty is very important in a relationship.
what should I say? word for word
I would say, “Brady this is hard for me but I feel you need to know what’s going on. I really like you and I’m afraid that if we have sex things will change for the worse. I’m scared of screwing up what we have. That’s why I left the other night and stopped you this weekend. I didn’t want to stop but I had to. I like you a lot and I want to take things slower. Plus I want our first time to be special; not when we’re both drunk.”
I second what Kelly said
Yes, what Kelly said. Remember guys have the same insecurities girls do, so just let him know what’s up so he doesn’t think that you are just not that into him.
If you don’t address it he may think things… like you have the hiv. And you don’t want him to get it. Or at least not yet. So just be honest for his peace of mind. And so he doesn’t think you’re trying to spread incurables to him.
Plus every relationship deserves a fair start with honesty. 🙂
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this made me lol. you have a point.
“Or at least not yet.” This comment made me laugh. Because you never know! Someday you MIGHT want him to get it.
Best reply in the history of the internet.
Totally agree tho… If you don’t give your own explanation he may fill in the blanks on his own. I hope he wouldn’t jump to the hiv conclusion (😂) but he might start to wonder if his technique is less than impressive.
Excited to hear about the gala. Go easy on the wine and tap that fine dressed-up ass!
Lol, this is true! The fact that he doesn’t even question it, is testament of his feelings for you. I think everyone is rooting for you guys! Maybe have a convo about it, if it feels right for you, and have a great time at the gala! 🙂
thank you babe. ❤
I don’t know why people are commenting what they are. Maybe it’s just different in England, but I don’t think there’s a problem with the way you’re handling things with Brady.
Its going slow, and that’s the way it should go, it’s working isn’t it? He’s asking you out more and he wants you. Men play us women all the fucking time, and yeah it’s great to meet someone and not have to play games and be all happy and honest, but that’s a rarity. In this day and age, we are serial daters, and if you want to keep them interested you have to play hard to get and be unlike any other girl they’ve spent time with.
I think Brady understands you just want to take it slow, he’ll obviously be gutted you keep pieing him off, but he’ll also like that your respect yourself. And if he is a bit confused? Good. It’s not making him run for the hills is it? No. And plus, he isn’t being Mr open and sharing, sure he’s a little reserved it’s cute, but if he isn’t saying anything to you why should you put yourself out there and be vulnerable?
Keep doing what you’re doing hun, and have fun and the gala! 🙂
you are 1000% right. I don’t want to play with him or anything, but it’s like, why do I have to explain myself for not wanting to have sex right now? sex shouldn’t just be expected.
You’re exactly right. I’ve probably been out of the dating scene too long, but I’m still trying to figure out why all these people consider making a decision to not sleep with him the second there is a bed nearby “playing games”. There’s nothing wrong with ensuring every possibility that this relationship works out – and it seems that it what is happening. Having some respect for yourself isn’t playing games. That being said, I have a feeling you’re at that point. 🙂
I understand this, but, looking from the outside in, the reason people think you should explain yourself is because you seem to be.. teasing him a bit.. unintentionally. How about just telling him, I like you, I like making out and having fun, but I’m not ready to go all the way. Then sex is not expected at all when you get him that hot and bothered. Like, this time, you said no. You didn’t take off. That was better handled. Saying no, then he knows. He’s not left hanging and wondering what the heck. That’s all people mean by at least telling him something. You have to think of him too ya know?
I think you guys are right, I didn’t realize I might be teasing him. I think I’m ready now though
Even though you are ready now there might still be insecurities on Brady’s part. I’m almost certain he was drunk that night as a defense mechanism. Sometimes you need to look at his feelings and think about him other than yourself. When you’re in a relationship you can’t be selfish and not think about the next person. It seems that you at focusing only on you. You want Brady. You want to wait. You are ready now. You need this, etc. What about Brady?
defense mechanism against what?
He was trying to protect himself. Him being drunk like that is out of character. He knew you were coming over and he needed some liquid courage. You walking out that night was weighing on his mind. The alcohol made it better. Don’t you think that if a guy walked out on you like that you would be all types of insecure? It’s your life and you can do what you chose but until you start thinking about others and not only what you want and your feelings, you won’t have a successful long term relationship. I love reading your posts. When I read the comments I’m thrown sometimes that you are only considering how you feel.
I never thought about it like that so thanks. I definitely need to be more aware of his feelings because you’re right – I’m not.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I don’t think you owe Brady any explanations, either. It’s not like he has brought up anything or inquired about your behavior the other night. He also has made it clear, at least from my perspective, that he isn’t just interested in a sexual relationship with you, so why should you jump the gun and bring anything up? I agree with the other commenters that you may want to give him peace of mind and explain yourself if you get into a situation like this again, but maybe that conversation will develop itself naturally. Next time he tries something, all you have to say is, “Sorry, I’m just not ready yet.” From my experience, a guy that is worth waiting for will wait for you to be ready, anyway.
Go enjoy his work dinner & see what happens!!!
I don’t think anyone is saying that Reese is wrong to not have sex with Brady. We all commend her for self control. What most of us are saying is that running out on Brady and then stopping him once again can lead to him feeling insecure. He’s probably wondering if something is wrong with him. Men have the same insecurities as women but they internalize. I think Reese should explain to Brady why she is hesitant to not consummate their relationship. No question that Brady is probably wondering what is going on. A simple explanation will put his mind at ease and show him that Reese cares.
Thank you, Because yeah at no point was i trying to say that she is wrong for not sleeping with him. I actually believe that you should’nt have sex just to have sex, you should be in love. But there’s nothing wrong with being honest in a relationship. Saying she doesn’t want to have sex now would save her from having to be in the type of situation where she has to stop things and would keep him from getting blue balls. Hahaha just saying…..
Its super annoying that every time I scroll down the comments I see people criticizing you and trying to make Brady seem like a victim. You’re perfect. Xoxo
If the comments annoy you, here’s a suggestion, don’t read them. And calling another poster the “c” word is unacceptable and disrespectful. People are entitled to their opinion, just like you’re entitled to yours. No need to name call.
I love this blog. And I like to comment with my POSITIVE feedback. Its so uncalled for to bullshit Reese with negative posts telling her she’s playing games and what not. So dumb, but I apologize if I offended you by saying cunt.
I’m so far from perfect, but thank you Alexa. you’re so sweet. ❤️