note to readers.

Hey y’all. Before my next post, I just wanted to say a few things. First, thanks everyone for reading my blog! I appreciate every one of you.

I started this blog because I thought it could teach me things about myself that I wouldn’t otherwise realize. My friends definitely call me out and tell me like it is, but I knew an unbiased perspective would be different. I expected hate – I expected people to call me immature or tell me I was making everything up. I did not expect anyone to think I was racist. My friends know I’m not racist and would have never told me that my jokes were offensive. I’m glad y’all told me. I don’t think all Hispanic people are drug dealers or anything like that and I wasn’t aware that that was a stereotype. I’m sorry to anyone I offended with that comment, that was not my intention at all. I lived in Texas and Arizona where the Hispanic population is huge. I could never be racist.

One thing I’m working on is empathy. I don’t know what it’s like to be a minority so I am probably insensitive in that regard. My ex-boyfriend from college was actually half black (the one who will remain nameless) and sometimes people would make fun. I know that isn’t the same, but I do kind of get it.

I get annoyed when people think my blog is fake and think to myself, “They must not have fun lives or ever go out,” which could certainly be true. Not everyone’s life is exactly like mine and I need to be more open and less defensive if they don’t understand me.

When people call me out for ridiculous things I do like blowing up on people or drunk driving, I automatically assume that you’re looking down on me for things they also do. But everyone doesn’t drive after a night of drinking and people probably handle their emotions better than I do. I’m realizing that not everyone makes stupid decisions like me.

I have a very thick skin and even though I prepared myself for and expected everything y’all are telling me, I didn’t expect that my feelings would ever genuinely be hurt. I’ve opened myself up completely for y’all in this blog so I know that I’m asking for the judgment and etc. But when y’all say mean things about the people in my life, it hurts. Especially considering everything you know about them is what I’ve told you and you dislike them because of they way I’ve portrayed them. That makes me feel awful. I never expected to meet someone I really, really cared about and I hope that by including him in this blog, it doesn’t change the way I feel about him or our relationship. That’s the scary part. I want to continue to be open about my life, but not if it’s going to actually affect my relationships.

I appreciate every comment including the mean ones and especially the people who are always defending me. Y’all don’t have to defend me, I know I’m fucking ridiculous lol. I really thank you for letting me know that you can relate to me. I appreciate it so much!

Once again, thanks for reading. I’ll try to get a new post up tomorrow or Monday.

– Reese

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44 thoughts on “note to readers.

  1. Kelly says:

    I’m sorry if any of my comments hurt your feelings. That was never my intention. I think it’s great that you put your life out there and want to become better. The only thing that I found appalling is that you drove drunk. You could’ve killed yourself or someone else. I know someone who chose to drive drunk and ended up hitting into a light pole. He died and left behind a wife and two kids under the age of 5. That issue hits home for me and I wouldn’t want you or anyone else to put themselves in that position. Anyway is not my place to preach to you and tell you what’s right or wrong.

    • thank you and sorry about your friend. I def agree with you, drunk driving is so risky and dangerous and unnecessary. I’m not proud of it at all.

  2. Reese! I haven’t commented in a while, but do know that I am reading! Unfortunately, I haven’t been keeping up with the other comments either because your posts come to my email; and although I don’t always have the time to write my own posts or actually click on the blog, I make sure to read yours in my email. I absolutely love your blog and your personality. When reflecting back on some of my own feelings while reading previous posts, I can’t say that I didn’t expect some people to comment the way that they did–especially in regards to the drug dealer comment–but I never thought you were racist. I can see how people would be offended, but I’ve had exposure to tons of people in my life and I don’t get offended as easily–I never took it as you purposefully being negative. But, it is good that people express themselves and let others know what can and more than likely will be offensive to them or others. I will say that I am glad that you wrote this post; you acknowledged your own feelings as a writer and how the comments affect you, and apologized for possibly offending others or misrepresenting your friends. Kudos on that! I love your blog and I read every single post, so know that I’m glad to have you around. Can’t wait for this to become a book, so please keep writing! πŸ˜€

    -Lynella

  3. Hi Reese,

    I think you’re awesome. To share you life in such a candid manner and be open to receiving all types of criticism speaks volumes about your strength. I think it’s commendable that you created this blog to learn more about yourself and how you are perceived. Personally I don’t think you’re racist. Sometimes we make comments that aren’t politically correct. I’m definitely guilty of that as well. A sign of maturity is realizing that you might be saying such things albeit unknowingly and attempting to change, which is exactly what you are doing.

    As a fellow blogger I know that some comments do get under your skin and bother you immensely at times. I’m definitely not comparing because my blog is fictional and yours is about your real life but I do understand how you feel to a certain extent. I think sometimes readers forget that you’re a real person with feelings. I appreciate you sharing so much with us and I love your personality.

    I don’t believe in judging because we’ve all made mistakes. The key is to learn from them and become a stronger/smarter woman. I think you’re doing that. You’ve definitely grown from the Reese we were introduced to months ago to a more mature, aware woman. You’re not ever 25 and you’re killing it in your career, you have an amazing circle of friends and family and a boyfriend that you really like (and I think he’s totally into you as well). You deserve to go out and have a great time. Doll, I only have one critique. Next time you go out and have a few drinks, call a cab! I wouldn’t want you to put yourself or others in a dangerous situation.

    I loved that you wrote this note. It shows how far you’ve come. Remember when you couldn’t discuss feelings? Girl, you’re becoming a pro at expressing yourself and I’m proud of you:)

    Arianna

    • thanks Arianna. I know! I was so apprehensive to post something like this because I hate talking about my feelings. you’re so great at handling criticism by the way.

  4. megg says:

    I’m sorry if my saying you should consider taking a break was hurtful. I hope the best for you and hope that you have everything your heart desires. I learn so much from what you write about…it’s really helped me to grow as a person and not be so consumed with making everything perfect in my world. It’s allowed me to learn from my own mistakes and be a little more gentle with myself. So thank you for your courage, honesty and ability to share so many personal things. You’re amazing. πŸ’š

  5. KatyB says:

    Reese – keep doing what you’re doing! Haters are everywhere and unfortunately, their negativity on you is only a reflection of their own lives. If they don’t like your blog then they can choose not to read it, simple.

    You are a brave soul to open up to everyone and type what is in your mind. So many people are caught up in being PC and worried about offending the rock under your toe …but that’s life. In regards to the Mexican comment – my husband is a CO, and let me tell you…the Nortenos and Sortenos are nothing to mess with and they are EVERYWHERE. If you’re in a bad part of town, chances are there’s gang activity of some sort.

    Keep your head up and know that there are other ladies out there who enjoy your blog and in fact, live vicariously through it. I had my wild years, full of bad decisions including drunk driving and I’m amazed I made it through alive…we can all tell you what not to do, but in the end, it’s YOUR life, just choose your path as wisely as you can!

    Loves!

    • bianca says:

      And so are the Paul and Adams who are in meth labs. My mother is a probation officer and my uncle is a police officer. Let me tell you the adding race when it comes to drugs is a stigma. She should apologize bc just bc there are Sortenos doesn’t mean every Spanish person is one. Like every white guy isn’t Manson. So get your facts straight. Its rude and wrong.

      and yes like you she can choose to be prejudice. That is her life and people can tell her bc it is theirs.

      • KatyB says:

        You might want to get your facts right – Spanish people are Spaniards – from Spain.

        Adding race to drugs is a stigma because it is true. In the area that I live in, it’s the Mexican gangs who have come up from Mexico to grow copious amounts of marijuana to sell illegally…and guess what – they’re gangsters. You can be as PC as you want but at the end of the day, if you’re in a bad part of town and you see Mexicans walking around looking gangster like…chances are they aren’t selling Girl Scout cookies.

  6. You putting yourself out here for everyone truly is brave and commendable. No matter what, we are all going to come across people who don’t agree with our actions or thoughts, etc. But, I truly admire that you embrace those people’s criticism even if it hurts. It would be so easy to stop writing and delete your blog, but you haven’t, and that says a lot.

    Regardless of the mistakes you have made (we all make some from time to time… Tonight being one of mine), I wholeheartedly believe that you are a strong, beautiful person. Even through your witty, sarcastic jokes, I see a genuinely kind girl who cares immensely for her loved ones. That is a very special thing to see these days, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. ❀️

  7. Ashley says:

    Reese-
    I commend you for putting your entire life out there for our entertainment. The haters out there are jealous of the life you are living. There is still a large group of young adults that think we all need to be married with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence around a craftsman style home by the time we reach 21 years old. So when they see someone your age, which is still so young, they don’t know how to react, except to critisize. Someday, when you are old and dying, you will be able to honestly say you lived your life to the fullest. And that’s more than what these haters will be able to say. I often find myself jealous of the life you are leading, and sharing with us so we can live vicariously through you. Just keep doing you, and Brady (hehe), and live the life that you want to live, regardless of what these jealous bitches are saying. I definitely didn’t find you to be racist; I just think that you may not think about how your words/actions will be interpreted. But, I definitely don’t think you say/do things to be malicious. It’s more like your head is in the clouds (which is not a bad thing). I love your blog and it is one that I am always looking forward to reading. I can’t wait to see what crazy shenanigans (that word makes me feel incredibly old, which I am not, I am only 26! Lol) you get into for the next post!

    πŸ’–-Ashley

  8. I love that this blog is real and while I don’t agree with the drunk driving I love that you were 100% real by sharing it. As for internet strangers affecting your view of Brady don’t let that happen! We don’t know him and our views are biased by our own experiences with men

  9. e says:

    reeeese this post </3 I'm sorry people has been fking mean to you on your site, kudos to you for letting it all out here for all of us to see
    even if you do things like the drunk driving, I am glad you actually own up to your actions and mistakes when you write these posts (and don't pretend to be oblivious)

  10. D says:

    Reese, thank you for sharing your life with us. In my opinion, it’s extremely brave of you, especially because your share all the nitty gritty things when you know you’re going to face criticism. I really admire you for that. I agree with what someone said above – I don’t really think some people understand that you are a real person with actual feelings than can get hurt by the mean things they say. There’s a real difference between constructive criticism to help you grow, and just being plain mean.

    Please, please, please do not let the things people say to you in this blog affect your relationships. Remember, you only share part of your life with us, we don’t know the full story, or the real Brady, or Kendra, or whomever else you choose to write about. We only know the big parts that you choose to share with us. There is so much more to all your relationships (and your life) than posted on this blog. In the end, you know these people and your opinion of them is all that matters. Don’t let people’s judgement of them affect you. I’m not saying you don’t make mistakes, but in the end none of us have right to judge you or the people in your because we all make them. The only difference is that you put yourself out there, which I think we all respect you for.

    Keep doing you girl. πŸ™‚

  11. K says:

    Listen, people are going to judge. Whether they know you or not. You showed some huge balls there girl, writing this post. I commend you for it.

    You are not racist. People are so bloody touchy these days. Everyone HAS to be politically correct all the time. And the ones that do the most joking and politically incorrect jokes are usually the ones that jump on someone else the quickest. I personally wasn’t offended, and guess what? I’m Latina biatch! If anyone should be offended, it would be me. AsΓ­ es la vida. But I do appreciate how you hiked up big girl panties and apologized. One thing I can say for you my dear, you own your shit. Not a lot of people would.

    Take what you receive here with a grain of salt. These people don’t know you. They only know what you write. They don’t know the real deal, the other side or the other people in the situation. So we can only offer opinions based on what we read, not from the actual experience. I’m sure, at the end of the day, Brady is a great guy. He’s human, and he has his moments.

    You, are young. You act stupid, immature, impulsive. Who the hell hasn’t at your age?! It’s called growing up. You can’t grow if you don’t experience. It’s the duty of a young adult to be an idiot at some point in their lives, so that they CAN LEARN from it. You can’t learn from what you don’t experience.

      • K says:

        Just FYI. What you said wasn’t racist. Racist means you believe yourself superior over other ethnicities and races. What you said was prejudice. A misconceived opinion about someone not based on fact or experience. So anyone who calls you racist needs to look up the word. Cause you are far from it. People just like to toss it around without knowing what it means. Xo

  12. M says:

    Girl, we love you. Keep doing you! I think part of people’s strong reactions to your life at this point is because we feel like we know you. We care about you! The mean people are jerks. I love your antics but I’d rather you be safe πŸ™‚

  13. Amber says:

    Reese, I love your blog and reading about your life! You are truly gifted and I hope you don’t let the comments get you down – as a prior poster said, take everything with a grain of salt! I think you are awesome!!

  14. First of all, your blog is amazing.

    Everyone has a different story to tell. I, like many others, read and watch tv to see other people’s lives and immerse myself in a world that I’ve never known. Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side, but are quick to judge when people make choices that aren’t exactly what they would have chosen for themselves. Do not let others bring you down because of the way you choose to live your life. Look at how successful you are and how much you’ve grown and changed since the beginning of this blog. You are not afraid to speak your mind and let everyone see the good and the bad, and that is a wonderful attribute. Be proud of who you are and let the judgement fall on deaf ears. And keep writing!! πŸ™‚

  15. Anon says:

    From personal experience I can say you are young live the way that makes you happy. Yes you’ll make mistakes but thats how we as people grow through our experiences. I was 22 partying, killing it at work, and maintained some awesome friends and a relationship as well. Then one day I had a medical emergency that changed my life completely and all those things disappeared except my relationship with my boyfriend. Im saying this to say you never know what tomorrow holds or what could happen so enjoy living your life the way you want, be responsible to some degree and make smart decisions but nobody can tell you whats best for you but you.

  16. Luita says:

    If it makes you feel better, I got fired from my job because they said i was racist. I’m peruvian! And they thought I was being racist against my friend who is of mexican heritage. I was jOking around with her called her a wet back and said I was one too. But this other girl who is mexican got really offended I guess and told on me said I was racist! I moved to the U.S. when I was 20 and I gotta say I’ve never felt like a minority. I refuse to let other people’s comments bother me, I didn’t think anything of your drug lord comment. Some people are too sensitive!
    The drunk driving is a big no no, but you are young and make mistakes. Life is to learn from our mistakes, you are soooo lucky nothing bad happened to you!
    Your life is entertaining, thanks for sharing with us. And don’t worry about what people say about your friends or bf, only you know what really goes and you know their hearts.

  17. Kristin says:

    I think one of the things that makes your blog so great is that you share so stuff you aren’t proud of. I remember when you wrote the post about telling Brady you were pregnant you had considered not even posting about it because you felt bad afterwards. If you only talked about the things that show you in a positive light, it wouldn’t be as real as it is. I think it’s great that you started this as a way to self-improve and clearly it’s working.

  18. Jessi C says:

    I’m Puerto Rican (frm NY) & I didn’t take offense to what you said. After looking at a few of the comments I was like woah, kinda harsh. And thought what if she stops blogging??!!! Nooo. Anyways everyone is entitled to their opinion but like the saying goes about glass houses. No one is perfect. And ur blog keeps me entertained. BTW Sorry about ur car

  19. Cori says:

    I really love your blog! I just assumed it had to be real especially when you met Brady and wrote about his job. It was all very accurate. I’m currently in pharmacy school and can relate to him! Your attitude toward everything is great. You never let anything stick to you and you are mostly straightforward. Love it! Thanks for doing the blog! It’s a bright spot in my dreary weeks of studying πŸ™‚

  20. Keep going girl, this is a wonderful blog and a fantastic insight into your life! I love it! You are very honest and brave for sharing what you do. As an Englishman working in multinationals, I’ve heard far worse in meetings and calls, it’s called ‘banter’ and show’s you have a brilliant, individual personality and not a corporate clone. As serval other commenters have said, people need to chill, not be offended on behalf of others and need to learn read sarcasm, or irony as you call it! πŸ™‚

    The joy of being in the early 20’s and growing up is doing the crazy stuff you do, its important to learn from it, if you don’t experience stuff, how are you going to learn? What ‘K’ has said further up is spot on. Drink driving – please, just don’t do it, get a cab!

    Keep up the great work, its a fascinating read!

  21. Jilly says:

    Haven’t commented before, but I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your blog! I love reading about it, I was born in Texas and just started at ASU this fall, so I love seeing someone who was once where I am right now. I think it’s fantastic you’re writing to see things in yourself that you wouldn’t otherwise see and hope nothing that you see here changes anything, no one here actually knows you and no matter how much we think we know we never have the full picture. I hope you continue this work, it’s my favorite blog!

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