I stayed at work late with Luke on Monday night. We were mostly working, but also telling each other about our weekends. We were supposed to hang out on Friday night, but I ditched him to hang out with Brady and his friends. Obviously I should have hung out with Luke.
Brady texted me at around six letting me know that he was getting off soon. I told him that I would call him when I left work. I think I hung around the office for a lot longer than I should have just to stall. Finally around ten, Luke started yawning and getting restless so I told him we could leave. On my way home I called Brady. I felt a lot better about the situation (after reading all the wonderful comments!) and couldn’t wait to confront him about Jenny. I told him to come over and at the last minute I decided to meet him in the lobby to talk. That way we couldn’t immediately hook up or anything and would have to actually talk first.
“Hi,” I greeted him.
“Hey. How are you?” Brady said. He could tell something was up and looked at me cautiously.
“Can we sit?” I asked and sat down on a bench before he could answer. Brady followed and sat down next to me.
“What’s wrong?” he asked.
“Well I have a story to tell you.”
“Okay…”
“On Friday… Your friend, Jenny… Basically she yelled at me for not being a great girlfriend to you,” I said and Brady just stared at me with a straight face. “She said you tell her everything about our relationship and show her our texts. Oh and she called me a bitch and a cunt.” I laughed.
“Wow,” he said.
“She said that I’m clingy and controlling and take advantage of you. All while you were getting the beer,” I went on.
“I’m sorry. I had no idea that happened,” Brady said.
“Yeah. I thought your other friends might tell you, but I guess not.”
“No. No one told me anything. She yelled at you?”
I nodded. “She made me cry.”
“I’m sorry. I wish you would have told me about this sooner. I can’t believe she yelled at you.”
“I guess it’s not a huge deal that she yelled at me. I’m mostly concerned about what she said.”
Brady looked at me.
“I think if you feel that way then we should break up,” I said.
“I don’t feel that way. I’ve told you how I feel about you,” he said.
“Okay… So why would Jenny say that then?”
“I think she came to her own conclusion about you…”
“Based on what you’ve told her.”
“Yes.”
“So you must have only told her bad things about me.”
Brady looked at me like I was being ridiculous. “No, it’s not even like that. I went to her for advice-”
“About how to handle me,” I finished for him.
“About being in a relationship in general.”
“It’s not like you’ve never been in a relationship before,” I pointed out.
“I’m sorry. I just feel like I suck when it comes to pleasing you. If I would have known this would happen, I would have never told her anything,” Brady said.
I crossed my arms across my chest, getting irritated at the thought of Jenny knowing everything.
“And showing her our text messages is a complete invasion of privacy,” I said.
“I’m sorry. I only showed her one text, but you’re right. I should have never showed her anything.”
“I wish you could have seen how crazy she went on me. I was not prepared for that at all,” I shuttered.
“I feel terrible. She would never have done that if I hadn’t said anything. I’ll talk to her,” Brady said.
I gasped drastically. “You’re still going to talk to her and be friends with her after the way she humiliated me?”
A panicky look appeared on Brady’s face. “Um, should I not?”
“I don’t know. Do whatever you want,” I said dismissively.
“What do you want me to do?” he asked and it sounded like he was getting impatient with me.
“I don’t care, but please don’t talk to her about me anymore. Thanks.” I knew I was being a brat, but at that moment I didn’t care.
Brady didn’t say anything so we just sat there in silence for a few minutes. Then I said, “I’m starving.”
“Do you want to get food?” Brady asked.
“Obviously.”
We ended up at a burger joint and got bacon cheeseburgers and fries. At one point, I sent Brady to get me more napkins and he left his phone sitting on the table. It started vibrating and I glanced at it and saw a ton of texts coming in. They were from Jenny. Since the phone was upside down I couldn’t read all of them, but one said, “I literally just can’t.” I wonder what he said to her.
Brady was kind of distant on Tuesday and I thought he was annoyed with me about what happened. Then I realized that that was ridiculous. He called me after work and invited me over so I got ready and high tailed it on over there. He was hanging out in the kitchen and I suddenly asked when his new roommate was moving in.
“New roommate?” he repeated, looking confused.
“Yeah, lawyer girl?”
“Oh. I don’t know about that-” Brady began.
“Yeah, it would be weird, right?” I cut him off.
“Yeah.”
I walked down the hall, yawning because I was kind of tired and I felt Brady following me closely. When I got to his room, I felt Brady’s hands rough on my waist.
“Oh, hello!” I said, giggling.
He started kissing my neck before I could even turn around. He stuck his hands down my yogas and grabbed my hips and ass before inching them down. I stepped out of my yoga pants so I was standing there naked from the waist down. Brady pushed me against a wall, moving my arms so my palms were flat against the wall supporting me. I heard the belt buckle jingle then felt Brady’s hand on my lower back and him slowly, slowly enter me. It was agonizing.
“Don’t tease me,” I instructed and he said okay.
It’s not his personality at all, but Brady is pretty dominant sexually. I kind of like it. It’s like his alter ego. We had sex against the wall then half way through I turned around and got on my knees to finish him off. I did that for a little bit before he grabbed my arm and pulled me back up so we could have sex again. He finally came inside me, which would be fine, but I missed like four or five days of my birth control pills and when I tried to catch up I got really nauseous and sick. So, I don’t think they’re even effective anymore? I didn’t tell him that though.
Afterwards we got in bed and I almost fell asleep, but Brady kept talking to me. So I sat up and talked back. At one point, he was showing me something on his phone so I grabbed it from him. Immediately it vibrated and a text notification dropped down. Guess who it was from? Daniela! And it was in Spanish so I have no idea what it said. What the fuck could they possibly be talking about? Hopefully she’s trying to find a way to quit that awful job and asking Brady for help.
Right after the Daniela text came in, his phone vibrated again and this time it said Hunter. I couldn’t even pretend not to see that one.
“You’re talking to Hunter again?” I asked.
“Yeah, did he text me?” Brady said, taking the phone back.
“That’s so good. How long have you been talking? What did he say?” I said excitedly.
“A few weeks. Um, his wife is pregnant.”
“Oh my gosh, she is? Wow! Now he really is stuck with her for life.” I couldn’t help thinking that Dom and I might be pregnant together. 
I should really figure out this birth control thing.
Anyway, Carly and Chris are moving at the beginning of next week so he sent out a group text letting us know that we will be going out on Friday (tomorrow) night. So I ordered an ice cream cake for the occasion (and because I love ice cream cake, duh!). It feels weird that Carly is moving across the country and we still haven’t talked so I should probably figure that out before they leave too. This is going to sound awful, but I haven’t even thought about her because I’ve been so busy with work and my own drama. I feel like the biggest bitch and obviously the worst friend.
hot mess in high heels. 
I’m glad you talked with Brady. It seems things will be good. But who is Daniela? I feel like I missed something or am having short term amnesia!?
Daniela is the young housekeeper at Brady’s grandparents’ house — Reese and Brady had a vacation there a couple of posts ago.
Glad you talked to Brady! Hopefully that will be the end of things with Jenny!! I don’t see how he could even want to talk to someone like that again after hearing how she acted with you! That is big news that Hunter and his wife are having a baby!! And have you taken a pregnancy test yet??
As for Carly – I get that you would want to try one last time before she moves to make up. But friends come and go in life – do you think yall will keep in touch if you do make up? I feel like you have better friends around you than her (love Luke and Preston!!)
I haven’t taken a test yet, this just happened on Tuesday night. I really don’t want to never speak to Carly again. I think it’s ridiculous to end our friendship because of this so I will apologize to her face this weekend.
Daniela is his grandparents housekeeper… so random!
You handled the Jenny thing really well, and I’m kind of surprised that one of Brady’s other friends didn’t say anything to him, but maybe they’re used to her being a huge bitch like that. I think Brady handled it well, too, it seemed like he was really hearing you, although he seems seriously oblivious sometimes to not have even noticed that you were upset that night.
this is Brady we’re talking about, of course he’s oblivious!
Don’t worry about the pregnancy thing! Especially of you’ve been on any type of contraception for a while, it takes little while until its completely out of you system even if you didn’t take it for 4-5 days. But deff buy a perggo test just in case because I guess there are those lucky ones…or not lol.
Also the only the thing that bother me is not that Brady is texting rando people, its that’s he’s quiet about it. I mean it’s weird to me that he was upset and worried about hunter but then randomly like 5 months later is all like oh yeah he’s good… That’s my only thing.
Also I wonder how tomorrow will go, stick Kendra or Luke or Preston, count till 10 and hopefully the night will end peacefully
ew I know. I think him talking to Hunter again is a really big deal and it’s weird that he wouldn’t think to tell me. he’s way too secretive and private sometimes.
My boyfriend used to be like that, kinda is sometimes now but differently. I just used to tease him and in different situation say “Oh yeah, because you’re just so mysterious”…eventually he opened up more. But he still doesn’t share gossip with me because HE doesn’t find important…sometimes I just need other people drama lol
I think you handled both the roommate situation and Jenny situation very well, but the situation with Carly really bugs me. I think she’s obviously hurt over everything, but at the same time shutting you out isn’t going to resolve anything. I think you should try one more time and explain how you know what you did was wrong and you feel horrible and leave it out there for her to accept it and move on or not. At the end of the day it’s in her hands..
I hope it all works out in the end though! xo Tori
thanks tori! I am going to try to talk to Carly over the weekend.
Reese! You can’t catch up with birth control pills. If you miss one it’s not safe to have unprotected sex for the rest of your cycle. Maybe you should look into other birth control options like a diaphragma or an iud? no need to remember taking a pill with an iud or a hormonal transplant what is this thing called thay can put in your arm and that automatically takes care of putting hormones in your bloodstream?
You handled the Jenny situation extremely well. I st think you need to talk with Brady about your talking and opening up issues though. It seems to come up frequently and it bothers you so this should be discussed so the two of you can find a good solution for this 🙂
my doctor always tells me that if I miss a pill or two I can catch up and take them. but I think I’m going to go back and talk to him about going off birth control. I’m pretty taking it for years and years is bad for you and screws up your hormones.
It is. When I got off hormones I turned into a different person! I’m so glad I made the switch.
I took birth control for 12 years and never had a problem. Looking back I wished I had done the IUD, but we’re trying to get pregnant now, so oh well. I’ve been checked for infertility because I was nervous about being on the pill for so long and everything is perfect. They do some test on your eggs and/or ovaries to see how they are behaving. Mine are acting much younger than my age because all those years on the pill preventing me from making eggs. Also, I asked my doctor about a diaphragm for the few months in between me getting off the pill and us starting to try and he said they’re about as effective as the “pull out” method.
lol I didn’t even know they still made the diaphragm. reminds me of SATC. good luck with getting pregnant! ♥️
I fully recommend the copper IUD, but have heard it can be more painful for petite women. The hormonal Iud is pretty mellow though, still hormones though.
So so glad you spoke to Brady it went really well. After your last post I was so worried about everything, but I am glad you are better… in my dating history have noticed men can be so secretive, private or mysterious about a lot. it takes them longer to realize that the small details are important to us too. but he will get there eventually
as you your birth control you should try other options and be careful too
Get an IUD! Life changing!
what’s life changing about it?
No pill to think about or forget about, plus they’re either no hormone or low hormone. For me it just made life so much easier.
Probably that you don’t have to think about it, it’s just there, working for you 😜.
There is one that lasts 5 years and it either has low hormones or no hormones I can’t remember. I used to work with a Gyn doctor many years ago.
No…iud can be very dangerous and cause infections causing infertility. I use the nuvaring, 3 weeks in 1 week out, amazing
I thought the nuvaring was an IUD, shows how much I know
I completely agree with the dangers of IUDs. A friend of mine had one that ended up “disappearing” after a year or so. After an x-ray, they found it near her rib cage and had to have it surgically removed. I use the arm implant (Nexplanon) and have never had issues other than some soreness after getting it inserted. Lasts for 3 years.
this story traumatized me.
An iud inserted by a doctor and stays in for a longer period of time, in reality can be inserted for up to 12 years…but that’s very extreme. The nuva ring is inserted and removed by the user, its a small rubber-y ring. You don’t feel need, I don’t feel at all not even during sex.
Also Meg, that’s effing terrifying for your friend
Not too late to take the morning after pill at this point. Need to get on it today though as your window is closing.
one of my friends took the morning after pill and bled non stop for like two weeks straight. so I’m afraid to do that. 😦
Yikes! I had to take it before. It did make my period a little different than usual, but I definitely didn’t have that experience. Wasn’t my favorite experience overall, but beat getting pregnant for sure.
I had to take a Morning After Pill once before my (now) husband deployed to Iraq. Literally the night before he left, we had sex, and the condom broke without us knowing and I freaked the f*ck out (naturally). At the time, they only offered Morning After at the pharmacy, so I had to wait until morning to get it and take it (now you can just get it from the shelf at Target, etc). It worked for me. I had no bleeding, but it did mess up my cycle a bit and made me a little irregular for 2-3 months. Moral of the story: I think it would be well worth bleeding for a week or two or to have an unruly cycle to not end up pregnant when you are not actually ready/stable enough for that responsibility. lol
Glad you talked to Brady! But I wish he would not act like he is so clueless. That would be really aggravating. 😦
When I saw the blog title I got excited. Is that bad? 😦 I wanted us to be preggo buddies.
I’m glad you guys talked it through though. And you guys probably have awesome sex. Totally hating right now.
wanna be preggo buddies with you too. 😦 I wonder what he will do if I go off bc and trick him into getting me pregnant. just kidding. kinda. (and yes we have awesome sex, obviously).
Are you satisfied with your talk with Brady? I feel like there’s still things left unsaid. Like the fact that he went to someone else for advice, but won’t open up to you? What was he telling her that she got the impression you are clingy & controlling? And the fact that he’s still going to be friends with Jenny. It is not up to you to tell him he can’t be friends with her anymore, but he shouldn’t want to to stay friends with someone that was so nasty to you. Or maybe stay friends but not be as close and never again go back to her for advice on you.
I’ve said it before I like Brady, but I feel that he keeps things from you, he’s not as open. And that might be issues from growing up, but he needs to start now or else when you get married things will just get worse.
The birth control thing is something your partner should be aware of. Maybe buy condoms and have them handy for those times you forget to take your pill. You can never be too careful.
the talk went fine and I’m happy it happened, but you’re completely right that we still have things to talk about. hopefully we figure it out one day 😦
I’ve been on the pill for the majority of 9 years. I’m actually thinking about getting off of it because there have been a couple of months between prescriptions where I’ve gotten off it and I’m completely different. My sex drive is about 200% stronger when I’m not on the pill. I’m just weighing the pros and cons of finding another method. I’m not comfortable with an IUD so we’d probably use condoms and idk how reliable we would be. My boyfriend doesn’t care either way (of course) so it’s up to me.
I absolutely love my Nuvaring, you only have to remember once a month to take it out and once to put it in so I just set my iPhone to remind me every month on that day, none of the risks of an IUD, I’m 22 and my doc won’t even put one of those in until I’m 25 and sure I don’t want kids because you may never be able to have them if the IUD travels and gets lodged somewhere
Dom?
Dom is Brady’s brother’s wife.
Oh yeah, I forgot that was her name.
I’ve had the Arm implant, the mirana (the T shaped iud), and Nuva ring. Out off all of them Nuva ring is what I have stuck with, the arm implant made me so fat and I had irregular light bleeding that ruined all my underwear. I got the Mirana and I was bleeding super heavy for 6 weeks straight then had a heavy period every two weeks till I got it removed, plus it can leave scar tissue on your cervix and that can lead to having a very hard time getting pregnant.
Right now I have Nuva ring and I LOVE IT!!!!! Some times I experience dryness but very rarely everything is normal and I only notice slight bloating before my period. If definitely go with Nuva ring…… And there’s my BC history sorry for the over shares lol
P.S. I hate that bitch Jenny for having my name!!!
Hi, I’m Bloor! I’ve been following your blog since the start, and it’s been really inspiring. I think you’ve grown so much over one year, and you actually inspired me to start one, too (I made my first post today: https://bloorinthecity.wordpress.com/)! I think you handled the whole Jenny thing really well. I was so mad just reading about her. I’m glad you told Brady about it–honestly I wouldn’t have been able to restrain myself from bitching about it non-stop. I can’t wait for your next post! I’ve literally been hounding the comments section for sustenance.