Brady and I were doing so well and were practically newlyweds…until Friday. I went over after the gym and we had plans of staying in and watching tv/being lame all night. I even brought birthday cake Oreos for the occasion. We started watching tv on the living room couch with my feet in his lap.
We watched an episode of Say Yes To The Dress (guilty pleasure) and then Chris came in the living room and said, “Dude, are you coming?”
Brady jumped up and followed Chris without saying anything to me.
“Uh, where are you going?” I asked.
“I’ll be right back,” Brady called and I watched them walk through the the kitchen toward the dining room.
Uh, okay. I wasn’t sure what they were up to, but I was too lazy to get up and investigate. I got through two episodes of House Hunters before Brady came back.
“Hey beautiful,” he said, collapsing at the end of the couch. I eyed him out of the corner of my eye and noticed the familiar red-eye, low eyelid look. Ugh.
“You were supposed to watch tv with me,” I whined.
“Relax. We can watch tv now,” Brady said calmly.
“But you missed like two episodes! Where did you go?” I continued. I know I was being kind of bratty, but that’s what I do.
“You’re so goddamn needy,” Brady said and I was so shocked that I think I actually flinched. He got up and walked back toward the kitchen.
“Where are you going now?” I called after him.
Brady did a hand gesture like he was shooing me away and disappeared into the kitchen.
I saw red. I wouldn’t say that I have an anger problem at all, but I had visions of going in the kitchen and knocking every ceramic and glass dish on the floor. And taking a piece of the broken glass to Brady’s face. How fucking dare he call me needy? I mean, I am, but still. I don’t know why he was acting surprised.
I sat there until I no longer had visions of destruction then got up to get in Brady’s bed. I’d left my phone charging in his room and when I checked it, I had a message from Matt. It was probably the worst time ever to hear from him since I was so pissed at my boyfriend.
“How was your week, Reese?” Matt asked.
“It was wonderful. Thanks for asking. How was yours?” I replied.
We began texting back and forth and I found out that he was out at the bar with his team. It was a lot of harmless small talk at first and then Matt said, “Can I tell you something?”
I said, “Yes.” I don’t know what I was expecting him to tell me, but I’m always pretty annoyed when people preface things. Like, “Can I ask you a question?” Just fucking say it.
“I think you’re incredibly sexy. I love the way you talk and carry yourself and you have an amazing body.”
“Thanks,” was all I said back.
“I can tell you’ll never give me the chance, but I want to know what you taste like.”
Whoa. I had no idea how to respond to that so I said, “😳” and that’s probably exactly how I looked too.
“I can take care of you, Reese. You tell me what you want and I’ll make sure you’re satisfied. Just give me the chance,” he said.
“What do you mean?” I asked, even though I should’ve ignored him/explained that I have a serious boyfriend/blocked him.
“Anything you want. Money, a car, a house, vacations. You can have whatever you want, I just want you.”
A year or two ago, I would have jumped on this opportunity. A hot older man who wanted to fund my lifestyle just for having sex with him? Sign me up! But when I read that, I was thinking, “Ew, this guy thinks he can literally buy me.”
“I don’t need any of that stuff. I have my own money and I’m happy with what I have.”
“What do you want then?” Matt asked.
“Maybe you should try winning me over with your personality and not money,” I said.
I didn’t get to read his response before Brady walked in. I felt guilty so I threw my phone down, but I still glared at him.
“What are you up to, babe?” he asked, climbing on top of me.
“Being pissed at you,” I said, trying to push him off, but he wouldn’t budge.
He laughed like I was fucking joking and said, “What else is new?” He made his way down my body and I tried to stop him until I realized what he was doing.
Okay, fine. I was going to let him eat me out, but he wasn’t off the hook. Afterwards, I turned and faced the wall and ignored his advances until we fell asleep.
When I woke up on Saturday morning I was actually more pissed off than I was the night before. I wasn’t even being that needy! Brady was still sleeping so I snuck out of bed and showered and got ready in the bathroom. When I got out, Brady was awake.
“Hey. Where are you going?” he asked.
“Out,” I said. I knew he wanted to stay in bed and cuddle because that’s pretty much all we do on the weekends now, but revenge. I actually planned on going to an animal shelter and looking at dogs.
Brady could tell I was upset, but is too much of a pussy to ask why so he just said, “Okay.”
“Bye!” I said and walked out without another word.
I spent like three hours at the animal shelter just walking up and down the rows of cages and looking at all the dogs. They were so cute, the way they were looking up at me with their hopeful little eyes. I wanted to take all of them home. I talked to the girl who worked there about what kind of dog I was looking for and stuff. And then she wanted to show me cats. Ew.
I took some pictures of my favorites and wanted to send them to Brady, but I was mad at him so I didn’t. After I left the shelter, I texted Preston and asked him to have a drink with me. He had just gotten off work so I met him at a restaurant near his job. He surprised me by showing me his new tattoo. I didn’t even know he was considering getting one.
“It was a spur of the moment thing,” Preston explained. He got a cross on his tricep which is kind of funny considering he’s not religious at all. He said he just liked the way it looked. He went with Nicole and she got a dream catcher on her ribcage (she would).
“So what else is new with you?” I asked.
“Nothing really. Same old. Nicole’s on her way,” Preston answered.
Ugh. So I quickly told him what happened with Brady before she got there and started being all loud and inappropriate.
“But you were being needy,” he said.
“I know, but he didn’t have to be mean about it.”
“And you didn’t have to pout about it. Have you talked to him?”
I hadn’t. In fact, I hadn’t looked at my phone in a while so I dug it out of the bottom of my bag. I had several text messages from both Brady and Matt. Brady was being super nice and sending me stupid stuff from the Internet and saying that he was going to take me to dinner and I get to choose where. I didn’t say anything back because I was annoyed that he wasn’t even acknowledging what happened.
When Nicole arrived, we decided to go to Tourist Central aka Michigan Ave. After we walked around for a while we got cold and decided to go to my apartment. We had wine and Oreos and Nicole told us stories about the crazy things she’s done in relationships which honestly weren’t that crazy. I think it’s really dumb when people claim to be crazy and they aren’t, like why do you want to be crazy?
Brady texted me again saying, “Are you coming back here tonight?”
“No,” I said back thinking he would finally get the hint.
Preston and Nicole wanted to go out so I agreed because I had nothing better to do. I dragged my feet getting ready because I actually didn’t want to go. We went to some douchey place in River North because Nicole knows people there. We sat at the bar and I started talking to this guy named Phillip. I enjoyed talking to Phillip because he didn’t immediately try to hit on me or buy me a drink and seemed to just want to talk. And he was telling me about how he was thinking about applying to the same school Brady went to for pharmacy school and I said, “Oh my boyfriend went there!”
It didn’t change the dynamic of our conversation either (I don’t think). So maybe I’ll stop being afraid to mention my boyfriend to guys right away.
After we left the first place, we met up with some of Preston’s coworkers down the street. It’s funny because I think I’m a pretty fashionable person, but Preston and his coworkers looked like they belonged in fucking Paris or something. They had on black and layers and jewelry and things even I’m not daring enough to wear.
I eventually went home at around midnight. On Sunday, I got up, went to the gym, showered, put on a cute outfit and had brunch with Kendra and John. As soon as I left brunch Brady called me. Perfect. I planned on going over there anyway.
“Hi,” I answered.
“Hey. Do you want to get food?” he asked.
“You’re about an hour late. I just ate.”
“Okay,” Brady said. I wanted to fucking strangle him.
“Well, I’m coming over so see you in ten minutes.”
“Okay.”
When I got to Brady’s I let myself in and found him straightening up the kitchen. He’s going to transition into a househusband so nicely.
“Hey,” Brady said cautiously.
“Can you come over and clean my kitchen too?” I teased to break the ice.
“Of course I will,” he said and I made a mental reminder to hold him to it.
“We need to talk,” I said. “Put your apron away and I’ll meet you in your room.”
I ambushed Brady when he walked into his room. I guess I had been holding it in long enough.
“First of all, you were so fucking rude the other night,” I said.
“What did I do?” He looked confused.
“You said I was ‘so goddamn needy.’ Like I’m sorry for not wanting to get ditched by my boyfriend.”
Brady looked all defeated like he loves to do when I yell at him. He’s so annoying.
“And you didn’t even apologize for what you said so you either didn’t notice or you didn’t care and I don’t know which is worse.”
Silence.
“So what do you have to say for yourself, Brady?” I crossed my arms across my chest.
“I owe you an apology.”
“Because I confronted you about it?”
“No. I didn’t know you were mad about it, honestly.”
“Why wouldn’t I be mad?”
“Well, I guess I didn’t realize that I said that.” Brady looked up at me and I kind of felt bad for yelling at him. So I softened a little.
“If smoking is going to make you like that then I don’t think you should do it,” I said calmly. “You turn into a douchey frat boy and I don’t like it.”
“Okay. I completely agree. I’m sorry.”
I was satisfied with that answer so we just chilled the rest of the night. I definitely didn’t let him live it down and said, “Or am I being needy?” at every opportunity I got. But he should have expected that.
When I woke up on Monday morning, I had a ton of messages from Matt. I opened the thread and the last message said something like, “He’s a lying, cheating dog anyway.”
Huh? So I scrolled up and read them all.
“Hey there. My name is Stephanie and I just wanted to let you know that Matt is married and I am his wife.”
“We’ve been married for five years.”
“You should also know that we have a one year old daughter together.”
“I don’t know what happened between you two, but you can have him if you want him.”
“He’s a lying, cheating dog anyway.”
I reread the whole thing several times. She sent it at around 3:00 AM so my guess is that she woke up in the middle of the night and went through his phone. Guess I’m not the only crazy girl out there!
I did the only thing that made sense next: I Facebooked her. Her profile popped right up and sure enough the profile picture was of Matt, a pretty blonde woman and a bald child wearing pink. I tried to figure out if I’d missed any signs that he was married. He didn’t wear a ring any of the times I met him, he was constantly texting me and he flat out told me he wasn’t married and had never been married. What the fuck? How can you hide something that big? You have to be seriously sick to lie like that.
Obviously I didn’t reply, but Matt texted me later saying hello like nothing happened. What. The. Actual. Fuck. I was super weirded out and wanted nothing to do with him so I finally just blocked his number. Good riddance.
So yeah. Matt is even more slimy than we even thought. I’m in disbelief. He hid an entire wife and baby! Who even does that?
Anywho, I’m really craving steak nachos so bae is taking me to find some. 🐷 L8r.
hot mess in high heels. 
OK, I feel like I need a shower after reading about Matt’s texts and I am not even the person he texted. I mean you already knew this, but EW! And the fact that he was so persistent! (stalker???) His poor wife. Ew. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
You were right to be mad at Brady; he was rude to you. Just my two cents, though, giving him the silent treatment is not a good communication strategy. Better, I think, would have been to tell him you were upset with him and that would talk to him about it when you were calm enough to discuss it rationally, and that you would contact him when you were ready to talk about it. Frankly, if you had done that and it would have been more effective and have the bonus of letting him stew and worry until you were ready to talk (OK, childish of me to say that, but the phrase “we need to talk” strikes fear in every man I have ever met. I admit to a slight edge strategic passive aggressiveness in my personality from time to time.)
Definitely curious to see what kind of dog you end up with!
okay good to know for next time… I was so annoyed with him that I couldn’t even think of what the right thing to do was. and yes, Matt is so disgusting. ew. ew. EW.
Ah! Matt’s wife definitely deleted the messages! I know this wouldn’t be a good idea, but I’d love for you to lure him to a restaurant and have his wife confront him!
Again, bad idea- but would definitely make for an interesting post :-p
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omg I would love to do that lol. I wonder if his wife has actually confronted him about it?
Eww Matt is the worst.
How are you feeling about the Brady sitch now? What bothers you the most about it? Do you really want him to stop smoking? I mean, he was super rude but he has also spent some quality time with drunk reese (love that you use that name lolz).
Still props to you for all the communication!
I actually don’t mind him smoking. I just don’t like when he turns into an asshole and is rude to me. I’m over what happened on Friday now, but it can’t happen again. I’ll actually kill him. 🙂
We’ll take up a collection for bail money if that happens.
Reese, you have GOT to stop giving other guys that kind of attention lol. You probably shouldn’t have even been texting him. Glad you finally blocked him!!
I know, I know, I know!
Ew Matt is such a skeezeball. She def deleted the messages. That man needs to grow up. I’m so disgusted.
Also, Brady – such a jerk. That was so uncalled for. He didn’t know you were upset about what you said? You straight up told him when he came back to his room. He can’t start playing that innocent/clueless card again. That needs to be nipped in the bud. Like Sara said, instead of giving him the silent treatment, let him know you’re pissed and you’ll talk to him when you’re ready. That way he can’t play it like he had no idea either. Just my opinion though 🙂
I know. I ignored him for a whole day, obviously I was mad at him. but you guys are right, I should have told him right away. I just wanted to punch him in the face though.
Yeah, I totally feel this pain with my guy!!
I have to tell him exactly how he was rude to me cuz I get mad at him for being rude and then when I start acting rude he gets mad back at me! It’s crazy. But some guys will 100% miss comments like, “you hurt my feelings” or “I’m mad at you”. My boyfriend Alex says, “Okay.” to important things I say a lot too. Love you all for the solidarity in this goofiness!
You WEREN’T even being that needy! Lol, I would go fucking nuts if J disappeared for an hour and didn’t even tell me where he was going if we were supposed to hang out.
And yeah, Matt sounds like a fucking gross jerk. Glad you blocked him and the situation kind of resolved itself 🙂
Okay serious question. Please bare in mind that I’m not judging you at all! But Im currently in my first relationship and I find myself doing exactly what you’re doing. I mean I know you knew what you were doing with Matt was wrong and yet you kept doing it… Why do you think you do it? Do all girls in relationships act like this? I hate when I’m hanging out with a guy at a bar and I think “if this were my boyfriend, would I be cool with him talking to some girl at a bar??” And I know the answer is heck no! Especially when, like in Matt’s case, I know the other person is seriously interested in just sex. So my question is, why? Why do we think it’s okay for us but if he did it that would be unacceptable?
Like I said I’m not judging you at all I find you to be so honest and so insightful and it is because of that, that if like to see your reasoning behind talking to other guys. Thank you!
okay with the Matt thing, I think I was just hurt and wanted to feel better about Brady being mean to me. I should not have been texting Matt on Friday (or at all). I think if Brady knew I was talking to a guy at the bar and I told him it was innocent and friendly he would be okay with it, but if it was the other way I would probably throw a fit. but girls are just naturally more jealous.
Girls are just naturally more jealous? Lol, I think that’s a major cop-out dude. 😉 I try to tell any new dude I’m talking to at a bar within the first few minutes that I have a boyfriend. It’s not hard to drop the, “oh my boyfriend loves baseball too” or some BS. And half the time the dudes respond with something about their girlfriend and then we both feel safer with our new friend knowing we’re on the same page and already in committed relationships. Just my two cents!
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Does it bother you when he just stands there looking like a hurt puppy but doesn’t say much? “Do I really have to tell you that you hurt my feelings?” Seriously? It would irritate me! But it seems like you need to spell it out to him. I would approach it a little different, I would say “what you said hurt my feelings, do you really think I’m needy just because I like to spend time with you when I come to your house?” Try to figure out how he communicates better because he seems to just shut off when you confront him. Maybe issues with his parents, they probably never talked about feelings so he doesn’t know how to handle you and all your feelings.
And don’t stay mad for too long cause it seems that you make rush decisions when you are mad like texting Matt…. Hahaha what a douche. Aren’t you glad you didn’t flirt back though? I went out on a date with a married man once, of course I had no idea. I got a call from the wife a month after the horrible date an she’s all “why is your number on my husband’s phone? In the call history it looks like you guys have been talking!” I just told her to leave me alone that I don’t mess with married men so she must have the wrong number 😳. I was so embarrassed, but then realized I did nothing wrong, we only talked to set up the date and nothing after the date. Oh and get this, a “friend” set us up.
it does irritate me and the way we handle conflict in general irritates me. I always get mad and blow up, he shuts down then I feel bad and it’s over. I need to stop flipping out on him, but when I’m mad I don’t think. it’s bad. omg ew. did you know he was married before the wife called you?
At least you flip out and then you let it go. In bad at that too I blow up and yell, but then I’m over it.
No, I found out when the wife called. But I had already decided there wouldn’t be a second date. On our date we went to the movies and then to his friend’s house because my friend was there. We were discussing what to do and he said “let’s watch a porn movie” I thought he was joking but he kept bringing it up. It was the date from hell! I was so ready to get out of there but I didn’t drive so I had to wait for my friend to finish making out with her boyfriend 😟. There are some real “winners” out there so just hold on to Brady, if the worst he can do is be bad at communicating you are a lucky girl 😝
Luita makes some excellent points, here.I think the phrase “my feelings are hurt” makes people less defensive than “I am mad at you.”In this case with Brady, it amounts to the same thing and he might hear you more and acknowledge your feelings more rather than just shut down.
Ya’ll need to learn how to hash out your issues better. You seem to run away, then throw a tantrum and be passive aggressive and he seems to conveniently “forget” everything that happens and brushes it under the rug/acts all non-chalant until he can’t take anymore and then he blows up.
That being said, I totally understand your frustration and I can’t say I would not have been pissed by what he did too. BUT, you guys do not handle these situations in a constructive way! You both need to work on your communication. It would annoy the shit out of me that he acts like he has no idea what you are talking about, but you annoy the shit out of me when you run off and disappear or throw passive aggressive tantrums instead of being straight-up about how you’re feeling!! You guys seriously need to work on this or you will never make it, and I SO want you guys to make it!!!!
I know! it’s the same cycle every single time. I need to learn how to talk it out instead of ignoring him because I’m pissed. I literally don’t know how not to throw a fit though. I need Xanax or something lol.
So I know that everyone thinks Brady was rude and it was but I think when he is high is the only time he says how he really feels, you were being needy bc you are there a lot and he missed an hour of hanging out with you. If you lived far away or didn’t see him whenever you want i could understand more but I do think that sometimes he gets fed up and bc his communication (as yours does) sucks and he keeps it in but when he is high its there with no filter. I think you guys need to start talking about his feelings not just the sweet ones where he thinks your perfect but the times he doesn’t as well.
whattttttt!
Matt is so fucking gross! Ugh!!
It breaks my heart going to animal shelters because I always just want to take each one of them home 😢
I want steak nachos. Take me too, please.
I think you overreacted to Brady calling you needy…especially since you even admit it yourself. I think it’s good that he calls you out on things instead of just putting up with it and pretending because that’s what’ll improve your relationship. So you shutting it down by making him feel bad was such a backwards step.
That Matt situation was so ew…but on the reverse, I think you were close to being labeled the same as him. Even though nothing happened between the two of you if Brady read part of your conversation he could have interpreted that you were leading matt on in an attempt to hook up. Just my thoughts, because you could have blocked matt way earlier when you knew he was still trying to get at you after you mentioned Brady.
do you really think I overreacted? how would you feel in my situation?
Simplest way for me, is that usually when I’m in those situations where someone mentions a negative aspect of mine I say “Quit calling me out, I already know!” It’s more joking and lighthearted but they still understand that I’m annoyed. No one likes being told their negative qualities. The matter could have been ended and moved on from the same night but yours lasted past 24 hours so I took it as an overreaction.
that is a good idea but I don’t think it would have worked in this situation especially since he was so rude about it and it hurt my feelings and made me mad.
Honestly Reese you are needy. Brady doesn’t need to be at your beck and call. You shouldn’t make him feel bad for saying how he feels. The tantrums, silent treatment are childish and will only push Brady away. I’m disappointed that you were texting Matt. You knew that he was interested this time and there’s no justification. If Brady did this you’d be up in arms and everyone would be telling you to dump him. You talk about how gross Matt is but how about you? You’re actions are right up there. You made a conscious decision to keep texting him. If you love and care about Brady as much as you claim, your actions don’t show it.
I know I’m needy but Brady was rude and I think that was uncalled for.
What about your actions? You keep saying Brady was rude. Wouldn’t you rather him be honest about his feelings than praise you all the time. You have problem calling Brady or anyone else out but you’re quick to take offense when the tables are turned. It would be nice if you took responsibility for texting Matt instead of completely blaming hom
okay you’re right and it’s at least helpful to know when Brady is annoyed with me and thinks I’m being needy.
I’m going to be real with you. You need to own up to shit and stop being so defensive. Everyone is cheering you on and telling you Matt is such a piece of shit, but you knew he was interested. You knew from the second he started texting you/calling you beautiful/etc. etc. that he was into you and you acted dumb and said that you were allowed to have guy friends and continued to talk to him. There was no reason to be defensive, but it seems like you want to do whatever you want and hurt whoever you want and still have everyone’s approval. You want to be a good girlfriend to Brady? Stop aiming to get away with whatever you feel like doing and defending your actions when you know in the back of your head you’re wrong and start putting his feelings first. If you don’t, you two will never succeed as a couple. Some dude tells you he wants to taste you and you respond with an emoji? What the fuck Reese, you know better. You don’t think it would’ve been more clear if you told him you loved your bf and you’d appreciate him not texting you again if he can’t keep it platonic? Even the title of this-“I wasn’t even being that needy”-yes, you were. You guys see each other all the time (by this, I mean weekly). You were staying in and watching tv. He doesn’t get a lot of time off, so he spent part of that time smoking with his roommate. Who’s moving back home soon. Who he probably won’t have a chance to smoke with much longer. I don’t even like weed, but I understand that it’s something Brady does to enjoy himself with his friends. Do you know many straight guys that enjoy say yes to the dress? And you flipped at him for missing two episodes? Literally WHAT would that have mattered in the long run?
I am NOT trying to be mean. I’m just trying to be clear. I feel like when people sugarcoat everything and deliver it gently to you, it doesn’t get through to you. I understand making mistakes and I understand that everyone has a different personality, but if you want a healthy relationship with Brady, you need to start changing your behavior a bit. And I know you’ll counter with how Brady isn’t perfect either, but this isn’t Brady’s blog. It’s yours. So I’m delivering my advice to you. I LOVE you and Brady when you’re good together, but you both need to start changing your behavior and sticking to it. Being nice one week and then being immature the next doesn’t count-it won’t make a difference. Work on yourself consistently and in the relationship and I promise Brady will see that and you’ll see your relationship grow in ways you couldn’t imagine otherwise.
okayy…when you put it like that. do you think I ask for a lot?
I think you just focus on bullshit sometimes. You’re too proud to let things go when you should and while pride isn’t a bad thing, it can get in the way of being vulnerable and open in a relationship. You were needy and yes, while Brady could’ve phrased it differently, you had no reason to drag it out for so long. Like was it 100% necessary to be all “or am I being needy?” afterward? He told you how he felt, which you’re alwaysss saying he never does, and when he does do it, you flip shit. It’s not cute and he will eventually get tired of it if you don’t find a way to be more mature. Plus, he’s dealt with more than his fair share of drunk Reese. You can’t put up with a little of high Brady? Y’all are in your 20s and both successful-I think he should have a pass to be a little irresponsible once in a while (providing he’s not a pothead-I understand why that would be a bigger issue).
And it is fine to hold your bf to a high standard. I do too. It’s good to expect that from someone you love. But right now you’re just not consistently showing him the same maturity and affection and thoughtfulness you expect from him without a second thought. Brady phrased something in a bad way when he was high; you continued to text a guy who you know wants to hook up with you when you were sober… which do you think is worse?
okay you’re totally right. it was immature. I’m really trying to control my anger and not hold grudges, but it’s a lot easier said than done. I’m working on it.
I understand. Part of the reason I’m being so upfront with you is because I was once a little much in relationships too. But I’ve learned to change, to be a good girlfriend even when it’s not convenient (turning down attention from guys, not getting so worked up over the silly stuff, etc.), and it’s paid off. I’m rooting for you girl.
How can so many readers not see anything wrong with Reese’s behavior? Texting Matt is wrong on so many levels. Just because he has a wife and kid doesn’t give Reese an out. Yes he’s gross and disgusting but so is Reese. If you’re in a serious relationship you shouldn’t be talking to men who you know are solely interested in banging you. The embarrassed emoji after he said he wanted to taste you? You can’t be a flirt and do whatever you want while holding Brady to a higher standard. You flipped because Jessica sent him a how are you text? How do you think he’d feel about your texting session? Do you ever consider him or do your feelings only count? He’s rude because stated you’re needy. You’ve admitted it yourself and really need to get over yourself. You see Brady all the time. If he wants to hang out with Chris for a little, it doesn’t make his rude or disrespectful. You have no right to try and control his actions when you keep doing shady shit. You have this victim mentality that is unbecoming. Even though your friends point out your flaws you still don’t get it. Time to do some soul searching.
I know. I should not have been texting him at all. I feel awful about it. I blocked him and have no interest in ever talking to him again, but what should I do now?
You should show Brady the texts and be completely honest for once. It’s not fair for you to constantly be on his ass about every little thing but not be accountable ever. If you love him be completely honest. Without honesty there is no foundation for a strong relationship.
okay. I am willing to show him and come clean about everything. he deserves to know.
YES. Do this. Even if it might lead to an argument, Brady’s way too rational to dump you over this. This is definitely a step in the right direction and it shows you respect him by being honest, even when it would be easier to sweep it under the rug.
you’re right. if I don’t say anything I’m going to feel guilty forever.
Whats the point of showing Brady the texts? She made a mistake because she was mad at Brady.
And people keep saying she has no right being mad at him, but we weren’t there. It sounds like he wasn’t very nice about it, why can’t we take Reese’s word for it??
Here I go defending her again because I don’t think it’s necessary to be nasty and point out all her mistakes and keep telling her she doesn’t deserve Brady or however you guys are saying it that sounds like that.
When I’m mad I do irrational things, I’m not saying her texting him was ok, Becaus it wasn’t. But I can see why she did it. You guys see Reese as this strong woman that seems to not care about anyone else. I don’t think that’s who she is at all, she cares and she cares a lot and thats why her feelings get hurt. If my bf invites me over to his house to hang out, then yes I do expect him to hang out with me and not leave me to go smoke with his roommate. If that’s what he wants to do, then let me know so I can make different plans, is that too much to ask for? I don’t think so.
I do think it’s crazy how so many readers are always defending her behavior. I completely agree with all of this!
what’s wrong with defending me?
Nothing wrong with defending you. Wouldn’t you rather have the truth? It seems that a lot of readers are agreeing with your actions because they make for a good read. If they are defending you for something positive it’s all good but placing the onus on Matt and not seeing your role is ridiculous. Then agreeing that Brady was rude? They’re not seeing your part in anything and blaming everyone else making you think you’re doing the right things. Wouldn’t you rather the cold hard truth than blind following? You can post tomorrow that you cheated on Brady and they’d be defending you. I’m not saying you will do that. Only trying to make a point.
that isn’t true. people have no problem telling me when I’ve done something wrong.
She made a mistake answering his texts, but it’s not like she flirted back. And Matt is a douche, what’s wrong with saying that? What people are not recognizing is that the minute she found out he’s married she blocked his number because it wasn’t just for fun anymore. Reese is not perfect and she knows it! I don’t throw stones at her because then people would be throwing stones at me all the time 😜
I’m not responsible for her behavior that’s why I don’t feel the need to judge her all the time like other readers do. And if you feel so inclined to parent her, don’t parenting books say kids learn better when they are praised for the good things that they do instead of just keep pointing out their mistakes?
PREACH.
Luita, the problem is there is a double standard. She did nothing wrong in your book only texted a man and quit when she found out he was married. Shouldn’t she have blocked him when she realized he was interested in her and because she loves Brady? Would you approve of Brady texting a woman that was hitting on him? Hell no because I read the comments about Jessica. Brady was rude? Telling her that she’s needy when in fact she admits it? Reese has a lot of friend time but Brady doesn’t. Reese usually invited herself over and doesn’t give him a moment to breathe. What’s so wrong with him hanging with Chris for a little?
If you only praise your kids and don’t point out when they do wrong, then you’ll have adults that have no accountability. If my kid did something wrong, I’d point it out and hope he’d take steps to do better. Not turn a blind eye and praise him. You’re way off base there. Maybe instead of praising Reese try to help her not make the same
Mistakes and grow.
Hahaha I was just saying what parenting books say, I’m not a parent so I don’t know and I don’t pretend to know.
But I think correcting mistakes should be done with love by those that love you and really know you.
She hadn’t texted Matt back for a while and she only did it because she was mad at Brady, that was wrong, yes! But it wasn’t the end of the world. I’m not going to crucify her because of it.
Like I said we weren’t there and we didn’t see Brady’s body language when he told Reese she was needy, maybe it was very rude. He’s said things before and she hasn’t gotten that mad. All I’m saying is that I’m not looking back at all her mistakes in the past because they are in the past but you guys seem to not forget about them. Even going back to read old posts, hahaha however do you find the time?
How are you successful at relationships with that type of mind set?
it WAS rude… just saying.
This is what I do when I’m bored at work on a Friday afternoon😒. Seriously, nothing to do! I should just call it a day, but I’m waiting until 4:30 to go to a Zumba class down the street.
I find your motives to be quite selfish. Brady called you needy so you use that to justify texting Matt. When you met him on the plane, you claimed you didn’t know he was interested. Therefore it was okay to go to the pub crawl. You chose to hang out with him when your friends left and then he hit on you. At that point you should have blocked his number but didn’t. Why didn’t you? You should have never texted him that night. You supporters blame Matt and make it look like you did nothing wrong. When are you going to behave how you expect Brady to? He has never crossed the line like you did. You two weren’t even serious when you flipped out and broke his phone over an old pic of Jessica.
You claim Brady was rude but how many times has he had to deal with your craziness. Let’s see, you breaking into his phone and getting pissed over a conversation and pics sent to him before you, you telling Jessica off and fucking up his work situation via facebook and then not having the balls to be upfront with Brady, you trying to break into his phone a second time, you not being supportive when he was stressed with work, you constantly running to him to bitch about every little thing when you can’t even be supportive of him, you still annoying him about stupid shit when he’s trying to work, you bothering Brady to the point where he had to give you his credit card to shut you up, you charging thousands, not having the decency to tell him when he asked about it, agreed to send back the stuff only after readers told you how wrong it was, trying to talk to Brady about it when he’s drunk and trying to hook up with you, constantly needing attention and affirmation, when Brady confronted you about something (I think the phone) you start crying and get him to apologize to you, you getting shitfaced drunk on many occasions and acting inappropriately. What has Brady done to compare to this? He does whatever you want because if he doesn’t he has to deal with your attitude. He can’t speak his mind and when he does you sulk and get pissed. You were being needy. The man needed a little time with Chris. You go out all the time with your friends and have a grand old time. Brady works nonstop and then when he has a moment and wants to smoke with Chris instead of watching say yes to the dress with you, you freak out? Grow up and stop being so needy and selfish.
I know I should have blocked Matt. I liked the attention, I guess that’s why I didn’t.
Brady can speak his mind, but I don’t think he had to be mean when I wasn’t being mean to him. I think he could have said that I was being needy and annoying in a nicer way.
I think this comment was meant to show you how much Brady has put up with. Sometimes you need to look at the bigger picture instead of making a mountain out of molehill. There’s a lot of things you could have done in a nicer way. You’re not perfect and you need to start being more aware. Reading your comment that he was mean to you and could have been nicer sounds like a little child complaining that someone was so mean. Your actions are worse than Brady’s and you need to treat him and act like you expect to be treated instead of feeling entitled. Do I think you’ll tell Brady and show him the texts. No. Do I think you realize how fucked up texting Matt is? No. All your focused on is Brady saying you’re needy.
I know I’m not perfect and I never claimed to be. you guys pointing this stuff out helps a lot. good to know I was being ridiculous.
YES! ALL OF THIS!
Readers split. Most condone Reese’s actions and blame Matt. Small group feel Reese is wrong. Instead of arguing with each other let’s think of this logically.
None of us would approve of our man texting a woman who made it clear she wanted to fuck him. Is there anyone who disagrees with this and would give their man a pass if he texted this woman? I sure as hell wouldn’t. My fiancé would be in hot water with me if he did this. Maybe a lot of you women are okay with that and it’s cool. How would you feel Reese if Brady was chatting with a random woman who he knew was interested? Would you condone this? The reason I’m asking is because you seem so indifferent to texting Matt.
Brady calling you immature and needy. You stated you were whining because that’s what you do. Should Brady have to endure that? Then asking him if you’re needy repeatedly is immature. I think you need to look at this from Brady’s perspective. If you were working all the time, stressed and had him constantly on you about something, how would you feel? I don’t think him hanging out with Chris is a big deal. He’s entitled to spend time with his friends too. Maybe you overreacted? I think you need to think about whether you really love Brady or like the idea of being in love. When you’re in a relationship and in love you don’t go seeking attention from other men even if you’re pissed. That concerns me. This is your life and you can keep repeating that Brady was rude instead of being objective and realizing two wrongs don’t make a right. I know you couldn’t care less what I think. You’re going to do you and probably feel in rude too but I wanted to be real with you.
I don’t need to think about if I love him because I know I do.
If you caught Brady having the same text exchange as you and Matt, you would flip shit. I mean, you found old pics of Jessica and flipped out. It’s ridiculous. And most of the time, it’s like you don’t even realize how you’re acting. You push the blame onto everyone else. When you hooked up with Carly’s brother, you claimed he took advantage of you. Now this whole Matt thing and you texted him out of spite because you were mad at Brady. You never think of his feelings. It’s always about how Reese is feeling and what Brady can do to make Reese happy, and yet, it’s like nothing he does will make you happy. I believe that you believe you love Brady, but your actions don’t prove it. It’s like you’d rather Brady act like a little puppy dog that does and listens to everything you say. And if he doesn’t, he gets scolded with a smack on the nose with a rolled up newspaper and he cowers with his tail between his legs. I think he plays dumb when you confront him because he never actually knows what you’re mad about.
But, that’s just my opinion.
Charli
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