I was sick and stayed home from work on Friday. On Thursday night, Brady and I had pizza and margaritas then went to bed fairly early, but when I woke up on Friday morning I had to run to the bathroom to puke. Brady was already at work, but I immediately texted him saying, “Why am I sick?! Are you sick too?”
He replied, “No I’m not. What are your symptoms?”
I told him about puking and my tummy ache and he said, “Drink some ginger ale and you should be fine.”
That wasn’t exactly the sympathy I was looking for but I just put my phone down and went back to sleep. I woke up again just before noon and texted Brady again. “I took a sick day. I can’t get out of bed.”
“Are you actually sick or are you hungover?” Brady asked.
What a rude thing to ask! So I didn’t reply and slept until 3:00. When I woke up Luke had texted me, “Sick my ass!” I laughed and texted him back saying we should get something to eat. Obviously not pizza. We decided on Mexican. And I was still feeling a little bit gross so the thought of drinking a margarita made me queasy.
That night I made Brady watch Teen Mom 2 with me. He thought it was weird that I was watching a television show about teenage mothers and I had to explain to him the progression of the show. He said, “This is still a little weird.”
Brady’s parents were in town so he hung out with them all day Saturday. They had gotten reservations at a nice restaurant downtown for Saturday night so I was supposed to meet up with them at 7:00. I hung out with Preston and some of his friends on someone’s rooftop for the majority of the day. Mostly we just gossiped and drank Bloodys and ate Cinnabon cinnamon rolls. At around 6:30 I looked at my phone and realized I needed to go get ready for dinner.
I rushed home and showered and washed my hair. I put on a black dress, my Rockstuds, the bracelet Brady got me for Valentines Day (I just found it after losing it for five months), and a pair of understated stud earrings. By the time I left to go to the restaurant it was 7:20 and Brady texted me, “Are you close?”
Shit. I told him I would be there soon then sped to the restaurant. Luckily it wasn’t too far from my place and I strolled in just after 7:30 PM. The maitre d led me to the table and Brady and his parents all stood up for my arrival. Such good manners!
Brady’s dad actually reached out for a hug so I hugged him then I think the mom felt obligated to hug me too so she walked around the table to hug me. It was weird.
As we were all sitting down, Brady’s dad said, “Reese, did you get caught up in all the traffic as well?”
“Yes, it was awful,” I lied. The restaurant was a straight shot from my apartment and I ran into no traffic at all.
I was sitting across from Brady, but next to his dad and Brady’s mom was across from the dad so the setup wasn’t exactly what I was expecting. There was wine already on the table and to my surprise, Brady poured me a glass. Guess I needed wine to deal with his mom.
They started talking about the menu then we ordered then Brady’s mom said, “So I hear that you’ll be joining Brady in New York City.”
Wait, was I? I still didn’t even know. I looked at Brady and he was taking a sip from his glass. So I said, “Oh. Yes.”
“I think it’ll be a great opportunity for him especially since Africa fell through,” his mom continued.
“And you’ll be closer to us,” Brady’s dad added.
Ew. I didn’t even think about that. I bet they’d want to visit us all the time and be really annoying.
“How do your parents feel about you and Brady staying together?” Brady’s mom asked me.
That caught me off guard and I think my reaction showed it. “Oh, they don’t mind.”
“Really?” Brady’s mom looked at the dad like she was shocked. I’m not sure what answer she was expecting. She’s met my parents and saw how crazy they are.
I nodded and smiled.
“So if you’ll be living in New York full time, what do you plan to do for work? Do you have something lined up?” Brady’s mom asked.
“I’ll travel back to Chicago three days out of the week to work at the office. I’ve already discussed this with my boss and she approved,” I explained.
“That’s extensive traveling,” she said. “Is that something you’ll be paying for out of pocket or will your company cover it?”
“It’s out of pocket, but my dad has really great airline benefits,” I assured her.
“This sounds like it’s going to be quite expensive.”
I glanced at Brady and he was resting his mouth on his hands just staring at me.
Brady’s mom went on. “Is this a move you’re financially prepared for, Reese?”
“Yes,” I answered automatically.
“So you’ll be paying for your apartment here in Chicago, for your share of the expenses while living in New York City and the cost of traveling back to Chicago each week for work? At what point is following your significant other too much?” Brady’s mom looked around the table and kind of chuckled, but no one else laughed.
Awkward silence.
I glanced at Brady again and he was facing his mom and drinking his wine.
“I think if you two have it all figured out then it’ll be a great opportunity and experience. We are not too fond of you living together unmarried, but if you’re willing to take that risk then we won’t stop you,” Brady’s dad said.
I smiled at him.
“I think my main concern, Reese, is you becoming pregnant during your stay in New York. I hope you are taking proper precautions to prevent something like that from happening,” Brady’s mom said.
I just blinked at her. Wait, what? Pregnant? Why was she afraid I would get pregnant of all things?
“Oh, that isn’t a problem…” I said slowly.
“I certainly hope not. You are not ready for that. Not without a more stable career and steady home. And of course, marriage if that’s something that is meant to happen between you two.” Brady’s mom actually smiled at me then patted Brady’s hand on the table. “Right, son?”
Brady didn’t even glance at me as he said, “Right.”
Stable fucking career? My career is plenty stable! Why would she even say that and why would Brady agree with her?
Brady’s dad started talking about how proud he was and blah blah blah. Our food came (steak on salt blocks) and the parents told us all the places we needed to visit in New York.
“Go here for an inexpensive dinner if you don’t want to cook.”
“This church has services six times a day on Sundays so surely you’ll be able to find one service that fits into your schedule.”
“You can save a lot of money by shopping here over this other place.”
I couldn’t even look at Brady so I just smiled and nodded like I cared. Once the check came and the dad pulled his wallet out, I turned to Brady and glared at him. He had the nerve to smile at me and I rolled my eyes.
We all walked outside together and Brady’s dad hugged me and said it was nice to see me again. Brady’s mom grabbed my elbow just inside the entrance and pulled me aside.
“I want you to know that I am happy and excited that you are taking this journey with Brady. But I want you to handle and carry yourself like the Christian woman I know you are,” she said.
I was probably looking at her like she was crazy, but I still nodded and said, “Okay.”
“I want you to promise not to take advantage of my son and his opportunity. You must contribute to this move and all the expenses it entails. The two of you are not married so he is not obligated to take care of you or provide for you. This is your financial responsibility just as much as it is his.”
It’s like she reads my blog! I nodded again. “Okay.”
Finally, Brady’s mom pulled me into a hug with her skinny little arms. In my heels, I was a good six inches taller than her so it felt weird.
“It’s good to see you as always. I hope to see you again soon,” Brady’s mom said as we pulled away and she actually sounded genuine.
Since Brady and I arrived at the restaurant separately we left separately, but I immediately started toward his place. Oh, did I have some words for him! He beat me there and I stormed in. I found him in his room, changing his shirt.
“What the actual fuck?” I blurted out.
“Hmm?” he replied, looking at me like I was a fucking maniac.
“That was the most awkward dinner of my life. Why didn’t you say anything?” I yelled.
“What was I supposed to say?” Brady asked defensively.
“Maybe defend me or something! She made me sound like a gold digging slut! Are you like afraid to stand up to your mom?”
“No! She didn’t make you sound like that!”
“Did you tell her about my pregnancy scare?” I demanded.
“No.”
“Yes you did! You’re such a liar! That’s why she’s all concerned about me getting pregnant.”
Brady sighed and turned away from me and I followed him.
“You were all agreeing with her about everything. How do you think that made me feel? You could have at least had my back or said something.”
Brady didn’t say anything and it pissed me off so I blurted out, “This isn’t working out. I no longer want to be in a relationship with you and I will not be joining you in New York.”
I spun around and started to march out of there and I made it to the end of the hallway before Brady finally chased me.
“Don’t leave,” he said. “I’m sorry. It isn’t worth it to get in a fight with my mom. I just agree with her so it doesn’t turn into an argument.”
I looked at him expectantly.
“I’m sorry. I love you. I want to be with you no matter what my mom says.”
I said, “I don’t want to go to New York.”
“Okay,” Brady said.
“But go if you want to. I’ll be here waiting when you get back.”
“I don’t want to go either.”
“Okay.”
Brady cautiously kissed me and I grabbed his neck and made him kiss me for real. I just love bae.
On Sunday morning, we woke up and laid in bed talking. I told Brady about subleasing my apartment and he said, “Just move in here.”
As if I had any other options!
I said, “Okay if you insist!”
“You can be my little housewife,” he said, snuggling my neck. Little does he know that he’s actually going to be my little house husband. I can’t wait.
We got up and went to brunch then I dragged Brady shopping. We only made it to Topshop because I spent so much time trying on clothes. I haven’t been in Topshop in so long so it was completely necessary. Brady only complained a couple times.
So yeah. Officially not moving to New York! I’m a little bummed about it, but I’m also relieved. I think it was actually becoming pretty dreadful and tearing us apart so it’s probably a good thing we decided against it. Maybe one day.
My birthday is next Sunday and as of right now, I don’t have any plans. Brady hasn’t even mentioned it so if anyone talks to him, make sure he’s planning an extravagant surprise! Have a good week!
hot mess in high heels. 
So you’re going to sublease your place and moved in with Brady. Will you be helping with costs because you definitely didn’t make mention of that. Not to be mean but I think Brady’s moms questions were valid. Maybe Brady voiced his concerns to them and she did what he couldn’t. Which is ask you about all the things you two should have discussed.
I really don’t think it was Brady’s mom’s place to ask me those questions especially publicly at dinner like that. if Brady has concerns he should probably be man enough to ask me himself not rely on his mom and friends to do it.
well to be fair we did bring it up to you so you could bring it up to him as well 😛
his mom has no tact and I’m guessing Brady doesn’t wanna make you uncomfortable by discussing splitting costs with you while you know he makes enough to shoulder them but it’s not his responsibility to either since you’re making enough to be able to handle splitting the bills
it’s not news he has issues bringing up important conversations so you gotta be more proactive about them
BTW his mom is a bitch for bringing up that shit at all, and worst of all in front of everyone in a public place anyway, and like Brady shouldn’t get his mom to fight his battles he’s a grown ass man wtf
oh I know. and then for him to say he just lets her say and think things because he doesn’t want to fight. it’s his mother! he should be able to talk to her and tell her when she’s wrong.
What do you mean by publicly at dinner? There was only you, Brady, and his parents. His parents have a right to be concerned/interested in what’s happening since their son is moving with his girlfriend. Did you want her to speak to you one on one about it? She would be telling her husband anyways so there’s no difference. Do you just have an issue with the fact that it took place over dinner? Because I don’t think that shouldn’t matter since it’s not as though people would eavesdrop, but even if they did it wouldn’t make a difference.
I think talking to me about getting pregnant was a little inappropriate and yes, she could have pulled me aside to talk about it privately.
Brady’s interactions with his mom during that dinner (or lack thereof) reminds of stories I’ve read on DWIL Nation (google it).
Regardless of if she’s right or not he should not be tolerating his mom talking about his significant other like that. He totally used you as a shield and threw you under the bus. He should have ended the convo and dinner. I mean he’s an adult right? So why is he sitting there letting his mom sit berating him & his gf & trying to run his life.
Ugh.
I couldn’t agree more!!
If Brady didn’t agree with what his mum was saying he probably would have defended you. When you decided you didn’t want to go to NY anymore Brady was too quick to change his mind. It seems like he doesn’t know what he really wants.
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I kind of think that too but then I think of how clammy Brady gets when it comes to confrontation. so I can see him just agreeing to avoid that.
Uhm what is his mom’s problem?! I really don’t like her, she reminds me of my ex’s mom.. super controlling. That whole dinner left a really bad taste in my mouth.. Brady should have at least said SOMETHING. I also kind of wish you had stood up for yourself a little bit but I know it’s hard when you’re caught off guard and still trying to get along with his family. But keep in mind that Brady may have been telling her all those things.. if you marry him you marry his family!
I wish I would have stood up for myself too, but I’m kind of glad I didn’t. I want Brady’s mom to think I’m a sweet little innocent girl who would never talk back! ☺️ but yeah, I think Brady should have said something to mediate.
What would you have done if Brady had let you leave and you guys had another breakup?
It seems kind of manipulative and that shit breaks down a relationship.
how is that manipulative? if he let me leave and we actually broke up then we would just be broken up.
I’m confused. I thought you loved Brady and wanted to get married and settle down with him.
Are you saying that you don’t want to be with Brady? You would be fine if he let you leave and you two were broken up? You would be fine if you were single and didn’t have Brady in your life? Your response makes it seem like you don’t care much about Brady or your relationship. If that’s the case maybe you should let him go and find someone that would love and appreciate him unconditionally.
maybe I should let him go! great idea!
I don’t think you wanted to break up with him. If you did have questions you wouldn’t have agreed to move in with him.
You were upset with his mom, picked a fight, threatened him and had him declare is undying love and loyalty to you. You were then back in love and ready to move in. That’s why I think what you said was manipulative.
Keep on telling him you want to end the relationship. One day he could stand up for himself and take you up on your offer.
I respectfully disagree.
I really can’t believe how immature and ridiculous you are!
To me, all the questions that Brady’s mom asked are valid. You’re moving to New York with her son and she wants to know that he won’t be taken advantage of and how everything will work out. She wants to know how everything is happening from your side, Brady shouldn’t have to intervene and always protect you from his mom. You should learn to be able to deal with her. It sucks and you can always complain about it but don’t be mad at Brady for not saving you from nearly every single conversation you have with her. As for the pregnancy question, wasn’t there a boat trip you went on before where you threw up and she also quickly jumped to pregnancy conclusion? That just seems to be how her mind works; she’s super paranoid about that lol
About New York; from Brady’s quick reply it seemed like he didn’t want to go at all, which is the same thought I also had from your previous posts but you always defended it with Brady not being such a pushover that he would move to New York just because of you. But legit, it does seem like he is just that much of a pushover and willing to do so much for you. I’m not sure how much actions he had already taken for the move to New York, but just from your argument he’s now going to have to undo everything.
As for being so mad you tell him you no longer want to be in the relationship? Ouch. Arguments should be resolved, not someone threatening to end the relationship so that the other person buckles and asks for forgiveness/or start kissing ass. That was very manipulative.
I don’t want Brady to protect me from his mom, I just want him to stand up for me when she’s making me uncomfortable or if she’s making assumptions about our relationship that aren’t true. I think that’s completely reasonable to ask for in a relationship. I would stop my parents (and have!) if they were making him feel uncomfortable.
His mom didn’t have the
right to say anything at all. God, I’d certainly tell my boyfriends mom to move along and not to worry about our decisions in life if it happened to me. The whole religion thing bothers me because no one should inflict their beliefs in that way. My mother is very Christian and so is my boyfriends mother. But my boyfriend and I are not. My mom had the same “living out of wedlock” reaction, and I told her to mind her manners and not everyone feels the way she does, and I understand her opinion and beliefs and I certainly will incorporate them when I can, but I don’t have to if I don’t want to.
As for New York, Brady didn’t want to go. He didn’t want to disappoint you. He seems like he is always trying to make everyone happy by putting his feelings aside, even when they are valid.
I don’t think you are immature for saying you didn’t want to continue with the relationship and move to New York. It seems like you need to be blunt to get a reaction from Brady. It’s certainly not the best way to manage communication but it seems like it’s the only thing that works. Talk about this. Even if you are upset, maybe you guys could write each other emails to help you both open up about your feelings and then when you are ready to sit face to face, go over them. This doesn’t make you a bad couple, it just makes you take a different step towards creating a more trusting communication style.
I have literally had most fights with my boyfriend that you have had with Brady. I’m a crazy craze bag sometimes, and I know it. But it’s a live and learn type of world out there. We’ve been together 7 years, no marriage or kids kids yet, because we are unsure of our plans and we want to experience more before we settle down (we talk about it all the time, Which is wonderful, because it’s not awkward at all). Don’t rush into these things if it’s just for the ring and wedding. It’ll come naturally and I think you guys moving in together will help you both towards creating a better trusting and lasting relationship.
Man, I never write that much. Sorry if it doesn’t make sense! 🙂
this makes sense and it’s actually really helpful! (and good to know we aren’t the only ones having these petty fights)
I can’t believe how entitled you are. You’ve met Brady’s parents what three times now? First time you drank too much and threw up, second time with your parents you drank too much and got sick and then couldn’t even speak to them, third time you go hang out with your friends drink and then show up a half hour late. Where’s your pride? Don’t you want to make a good impression or do you want them to think you’re a sloppy drunk that’s leeching off of their son? If it’s the latter you’re doing a damn good job at that. You can keep saying that you help Brady but never open your mouth to help with any cost. He’s not obligated to pay your way. You’ve said numerous time that you make your own money and don’t need his. Actions speak louder than words. You’re going to move in with him, get money from your apartment and probably spend that on shoes instead of helping out financially. Why not put your money where your mouth is and assist financially?
You manipulate every situation. Threatening to break up with Brady to get your way? That’s what abusers do. Then you tell him about your apartment and knew he’d invite you to live with him because where else would you go? When you love someone you don’t use them. The comment about making his your house husband? Grow up. Brady is not there to cater to you. What you you ever do for him? Everything is always your way and it’s about time Brady made a decision about NY. Don’t you see how wrong you were about him wanting to go because he’s not such a pushover? If he really wanted go do you think he’d give in so quickly. I hope he finds out that you snooped through his emails and took a pic of his letter. It would be the comeuppance you deserve after the way you treat Brady.
so you think I’m an abuser?! uh okay.
Um I said that’s how abusers behave. Don’t twist my words. You treat Brady like his main purpose is to serve you when you give nothing. A relationship isn’t me, me, me and take, take, take. Sad that you don’t get that and see Brady as a bank. You come off as a gold digger and until you pay your own way instead of taking and making everything about you that’s what people will think.
I do not see Brady as a bank. you guys have no idea the financial situation and what I pay for.
pretty sure the first time she met his parents she got seasick on the boat?
that is some Houdini shit, it’s like she knows everything that’s been goog on in the last month, has Brady been speaking with her or something?
I also think it’s so inappropriate to say things like that, first of all their son is an adult, his not 16, his money his problem. ( I do think those questions are valid, but it’s you and Brady that need to speak about it, no you, Brady and his parents)
I know Brady says it’s easier just to avoid conflict and while I do agree speaking to you like that, basically accusing you of being a gold digger not cool. Brady needed to interject then I think.
Anyway good luck with the move it, may be time for some honest conversations! 🙂 x
I completely agree Amy:-)
Sorry 1 more, I have had rough patches with my boyfriend where I’ve said, I’m done go fuck yourself, but it’s the heat of the moment. Reese just got the third degree at dinner and Brady sat there I’d be pissed too, not manipulative but she was probably seeing red at the time. A
Brady should have stopped that interrogation at dinner because the NY issues are for you and him to discuss, but I guess those issues are off the table now. But I think you are ridiculous with the ‘being done and not living together’ statement. Have a real discussion not a yelling match that turns into sex!
KIDNAP BRADY AND GO TO A THERAPIST!
I will!
I think everyone behaved wrong here. Reese, you should treat others the way you want to be treated. So, arrive on time for dinner, make it clear you and Brady are a team, both to him and his parents, and handle arguments in a calmer fashion. No need to threaten to get your way. One of these days, Brady will not give in and you will not have him in your life. If you really see a future with him, act like it. Actions really do speak louder than words, and since you and Brady have a hard time communicating anyway, you really need to show him you want to work as team building both your relationship now and a future together.
Granted, we only see one side of things. But, a lot of times I don’t think you make it clear what you will offer or contribute, or even what you really want. As much as throwing a tantrum gets your way, it’s so much better to come to a mutual agreement. Believe me, this is the only way you’ll actually sustain a healthy relationship. If one persons gets their way all the time, the other builds resentment. I think this is why Brady blows up sometimes.
The mom…Oy vey. I see her concerns, as you’ve done little to show you want to work with Brady not make him work for you (to her, at least). However, she could’ve handled it more tactfully. Financially speaking, she’s right on point. Brady may have money, but he has a lot of it because of his parents so they’re obviously going to be a bit meddlesome in that regard. She did cross the line about the pregnancy talk. Brady isn’t going to stand up to her, but he should’ve spoke up to be like “Whoa, whoa, whoa…slow down…getting a little ahead of yourself, Mom” in a lighthearted fashion and then changed the subject.
Wish you all the best!
I think everything you said is valid and some of those points I didn’t think about (some of his money being from his parents). thanks for your comment!
I would be really pissed if my serious boyfriend did not at least interject once when their mom was veering on inappropriate topics/judgements about the relationship. In fairness to Reese, if one of your Significant Other’s parents was going in on you and your relationship like Brady’s mom was and the S.O. didn’t say anything at all, you would feel upset about it. Let’s be 100% real. Brady is a grown man. He is not a child. Brady’s mom really has no tact at all. And I find it really unattractive when a grown man won’t stand up for his woman; or in the very least, attempt to change the subject if they want to avoid confrontation.
Brady’s silence – to ME- meant that he actually agreed with his mom. I would be blunt and ask him if he agreed with what she said and if so, why didn’t he just talk to you about it instead of having his mom do the dirty work for him!?
preach girl!
Yes!! This whole thing! I definitely think you should have a conversation with Brady about finances (especially since you’re moving in together!) even if it’s as simple as ‘okay you cover the mortgage and I’ll cover cable and groceries’ kind of thing. By having that conversation you can show him (and yourself) how serious about the relationship you are.
I hated bringing up the subject of finances at first because it was so awkward!! But now my husband and I openly talk about our bank account and it has only made our marriage better! I think that if you truly see a future with Brady you should have the not so fun talks now so there won’t be any surprises when you take your relationship to the next level.
And as for his mother…she is such a bitch! Although I agree that when you marry someone you marry the family it doesn’t mean that you have to love them (or vice versa) you just have to be able to be cordial and tolerate them. I can only take my mother-in-law in small spurts and as long as you and Brady have a solid relationship then it doesn’t matter what his monster (I mean mother) has to say!
I think Brady’s mom was extremely rude at dinner, full stop. Whether the issues she brought up were cause for concern, absolutely NONE of the topics she brought up were any of her business. It doesn’t matter that Brady is her son–a grown man who is almost 30 years old. Asking about pregnancy, money, religion and sitting judgement on you two living together? NONE OF HER BUSINESS. From this one dinner, it is now painfully obvious why Brady’s brother fled to the other side of the country; maybe even 3000 miles is not far enough away. I understand why Brady said nothing at dinner–there is no arguing with someone like his mom. All that gains is aggravation, BUT he should have debriefed with you about what was said. I mean, his mom basically touched on the three major items in a serious relationship–marriage, money, religion–in one fell swoop. Brady needs to let you know how HE feels about those topics. If he lets him mom open up multiple cans of worms like he did at dinner without saying something, then he needs to man up and clean up the mess afterwards. Is he ever going to start learning to communicate when it counts rather than saying things only when events get to a crisis point? That sad part is it took you threatening to leave to get him to say anything at all. I have bee all for your relationship since day one, but it seems like have stalled out again. You have made strides to be more communicative, but it really shouldn’t have to turn into threats, tears or yelling to get him to say anything. You have mentioned couples counseling more than once now (your tweet about your mom offering to counsel you two had me ROFLMAO) and I really think it is a good idea. Time for a neutral mediator. You have a lot of things worth fighting for in your relationship with Brady, but they are seeming to be drowned out by the conflicts lately.
Hey, just want to add something. So people have mostly pointed out where they think you’ve gone wrong/ maybe could have acted a little wiser. e.g going to hang with friends before the dinner and not making it at the correct time and storming out. However, his mother acted completely CLASSLESS. Like the above comment, it doesn’t matter how true or untrue any of it was. I mean, I’d understand maybe your own mother talking to you or just you and Brady in private about it, but not his mother twisting her words so that she can come across as just “asking”, but seeming rather accusatory. As for some suggestions that Brady may be uncomfortable speaking about these financial issues etc, well he better start to get used to it, and quick!! If you guys will be living together, he is going to have to learn to communicate about a whole ton of different things. Living together is as close as it’s gonna get. If he did speak to her about issues/finances and concerns in your relationship, and had the balls to do that, then he has to have the balls to say to her “hey, enough of that”. Simple as that.
I hope everything’s going well
ok, i really dislike the put on the spot accusatory talk his mom gave you at dinner. but then it made me think back to the Jenny situation, do you think hes confiding in his mom to bring up these topics; because we know Brady hates confrontation? they all seemed like valid concerns from his point of view, with the addition of an overprotective baby boy crazed mother.
i also noted your title of the previous blog “we used to have so much fun together.” In my humble opinion I think that you need to go back to those fun times. to not be so caught up in stirring negative drama for your relationship. you probably do still have fun, but if you hone in on all the negatives thats all you (and your readers) are taking the time to reflect on. get back to dating each other, surprises, laughter, fun times- try something different but go back to the simple basics of dating and enjoying each other. if you get married, there will be plenty of issues to buffer through, like finances, savings, spending limits- 😭
lastly, i am excited that you guys are going to move in together! that stage is just so much fun, i suggest a fair trade of you offering to take care of all the utilities, if he takes care of the mortgage. then there is no drama of splitting the power, cable, etc. 😘
I love this! thank you!
What is Brady’s mom’s problem? Just horrible cornering you like that. Definitely wish that Brady picked up on it and stuck up for you a bit or at least asked her to back off. She obviously knows you have your own stable career. Inappropriate. Maybe she should interpret you wanting to be with Brady in NYC as well as maintain your own career and independence in Chicago as a pretty clear sign that you are serious about making your relationship work, and not just “following” Brady to NYC.