After Brady and I made up, we were back in honeymoon mode. We were both going out of our way to be really nice. It was like we were competing to see who could be nicer. And I think both of us felt really guilty about how we’d been treating each other. He got me a card and wrote a short but sweet message in it and when we had our talk I think I made him cry. I’ve never seen Brady cry so I don’t know.
By the weekend, we’d made plans to sell some furniture, have people over on Saturday and go on two trips next month.
On Friday, I was out shopping and I ran into my old coworker, Whitney. Do y’all remember her? She was such an annoying kiss ass. We saw each other and both did a double take then she walked over to talk to me.
“Hey,” she said. “What are you doing here?”
“Just picking up some things,” I told her, holding up my armful of clothes.
“Cool. I’ve never been in this store. They have cool stuff.”
She just stood there looking around so I said, “So how have you been?”
Whitney turned back to me excitedly.
“Really well! I got a new job.”
“Oh. What are you doing now?” I asked.
“I’m an assistant at an accounting firm. I’m basically the office bitch, but I get paid way more and I have better benefits.”
“Yeah. I miss some of the people though. Especially Luke. I miss him so much.”
I didn’t even know that Luke and Whitney knew each other.
“I miss him too,” I said.
Whitney kept standing there so I kept trying to keep the conversation going, mostly just asking her things about her life. And she kept happily answering. It was almost like she was trying to convince me of how happy she is now.
Eventually I started to inch away and she was like, “I’ll come find you before I leave to say bye.”
And I may or may not have spent an hour in the fitting room just to avoid seeing her again.
That night, Brady and I had ice cream for dinner, tequila for dessert then we sat around watching movies and not moving from the couch. We fell asleep like that and when I woke up Brady was already awake and making breakfast.
Everyone began arriving around three. Guess who had the nerve to show up? Tia or Tiana or whatever the hell her name is. She’s friends with Brady’s guy friends and walked in with them. After Brady explained her existence to me, it bothered me less than it would have, but I still wasn’t feeling her. And she has a septum piercing and wore a crocheted crop top, no bra and booty shorts. I get that it was hot AF, but still.
Kendra and John came and I wanted to complain to Kendra about Tia, but she just wanted to talk about her baby and everything she shouldn’t do since she’s pregnant, but she also had to be discrete because she hasn’t announced it.
Lindsey offered to make her a drink, but Kendra said, “Well, I can’t because… I really just can’t.”
It was kind of cute.
At one point, I was standing in a group with my hubby, Lindsey, Tia, and one of their friends named Ian.
Tia pulled a little baggie out of her purse and started packing a bowl without even stopping the conversation. Just so nonchalant. They started passing it around the circle and it seemed unsanitary so I went and hung out with Kendra for a little while. Eventually she got too hot and they went home so I went to find Brady.
He was sitting at the patio with a hot finance friend and I sat on Brady’s lap.
“I’m going to marry you,” he greeted me.
We haven’t talked about marriage in a while especially after our huge falling out, but in the morning I mentioned that we should have a destination wedding and Brady agreed.
“Okay,” I shrugged like it was a normal thing to say.
“So we should get engaged in the fall. Like after your birthday, but before Thanksgiving,” he went on.
“You don’t even know what kind of ring I want,” I pointed out.
“We can find a time to go ring shopping,” he said.
Brady’s dad is ill and I think Brady is now freaking out about possibly losing him. And maybe he wants to rush and get married so both his parents can see. I don’t know.
Kendra said it sounds like we are rushing and I explained that we’ve talked about marriage forever.
“Honestly, I was just waiting for him. I’ve been ready from the moment we met,” I said.
Kendra laughed at me. “It just seems hasty.”
“It’s Brady’s decision. He’s the most logical, methodical person I know.”
And she couldn’t argue with that.
And my mom is ecstatic, obviously. She’s been texting me about venues in Houston even though I told her that we are having a destination wedding. And she asked, “Does your dad know?”
They got together and cleaned the house and separated some belongings a few weeks ago and I guess it went well. Now they’ve both been expressing interest in each other to me, but neither of them will talk to the other because they’re so stubborn.
After having people over on Saturday, we’ve been mostly staying to ourselves. Do y’all remember the conversation that started our big fight? The one where I was nagging Brady to buy a new place? Well, now he is willing to. When we had our talk he apologized for his “dramatic” reaction and gave in. But I told him we wouldn’t buy anything unless we truly, truly love it. So now I’ve been sending Brady listings daily and everything is overpriced in his opinion so I don’t know how it’s going to work.
I don’t have anything else to report. I’m sorry. Life is boring. I’ll try to post again soon. Bye!
21 thoughts on “we’re going ring shopping. ”
I’m so happy that you and Brady are better. But did I miss a post about you guys talking?
no you shouldn’t have missed a post!
LOVE this post and it really sounds like you guys talked a lot of things out and you each understand where your coming from now!!!!!
things seem so much better with you guys! I’m honestly just very surprised how quickly things turned around, but since Brady’s dad has been sick it makes sense Brady was being a weirdo
early congrats on the engagement! is it kinda official? when are you gonna go look at rings? 😍😍
I know, it’s a little scary how quick things are going, but I’m not complaining. we haven’t talked about looking at rings again but I’ll mention it again. I’m excited!
Call me a pessimist but it seems that you and Brady have brushed your issues under the rug once again. He’s catering to your demands and is even willing to go house hunting with you? A far cry from a few weeks ago. It sucks that Brady’s dad is sick. It just seems that he’s afraid to lose you too so he’s caving and giving into your demands and wants. Getting married is good and fine if you have a solid foundation. You and Brady don’t. There’s trust and communication issues, lack of respect, entitlement issues from you, tantrums, no sense of financial responsibility and no boundaries. Additionally both of you seek comfort from members of the opposite sex. You threaten to leave when you don’t get your way and never make good because Brady caves. You’ve stopped therapy even though you both need it. You’re so caught up in the facade of a huge ring and wedding that you fail to see that your relationship has more holes than Swiss cheese. Marriage is hard and if you have all these issues now do you honestly think you’ll make it past the first year?
How about talking about marriage or serious stuff when both of you are sober and not stoned out if your mind?
we haven’t brushed our issues under the rug. if you want I’ll talk about what we are doing to make it work in my next post.
Your life doesn’t sound so boring: the thunderstorm over your relationship broke and you are communicating again, Brady is talking marriage without prompting, you two may finally find a house/condo that will be “our place” rather than “his place”, your parents are making reconciliation noises and Kendra is all happy pregnant. Sounds like your life is in a pretty good place! I am glad for you — you’ve had a rough ride for a while there.Good drama is less stressful, but it sounds like a “stop and smell the roses” kind of moment. It’s good to look around and acknowledge to yourself that your life is good once in a while. Cheers!
I wish you would have told us about your talk with Brady. You just skimmed over that and now it seems like you went from zero to 100. Last post he wasn’t even speaking to you and now you’re getting engaged and buying a place together? We must know what you talked about
I’m so happy for you and Brady! I think that you keeping this blog has been healthy for you and allowed you to vent about all the “bad” stuff that has happened. It’s a lot easier to talk about what bothers us rather than what makes us happy, but it’s always been clear to me that Brady makes you happy. The ones that make us the happiest also get under our skin the most. I hope the two of you stay good for a long, long time!! I hear wedding bells (soon- but not too soon!) xoxoxo
Tbh I literally have read this entire blog in a few days, from beginning to end, and at the beginning I thought you were fairly awful. However, after reading all of your posts so rapidly, it’s clear to see how much you’ve changed and grown up and I’m rooting for you!
I think you and Brady should keep going to the therapist. There are some communication/trust issues that really need to be worked out if you want to spend your lives together. I think it would also be helpful to just consciously be kinder to one another- I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and one of the reasons it works is because we don’t assume the worst of each other and are kind. Just being more positive usually has a profound affect on a relationship. It also sounds like he doesn’t pay attention to you sometimes even when things are important, and that’s a very important part of a relationship. If you haven’t already, you should tell him that.
I’m glad you’ve noticed I’ve gotten better. Brady actually called me on being “awful” when we talked last Monday so I’ve being trying really hard to not be like that. thank you!
Not boring at all 🙂 All happy and positive news which is great. Screw the haters and naysayers…life doesn’t always follow rules or guidelines. If you are happy, trust your gut and brain and go with it. In the past you have admitted when you guys just brushed issues aside. If you are both happy and moving forward then obviously you feel confident in your choices. Not every breath through needs a judge, jury and flow chart 🙂
Err break through I meant to type. Stupid Friday brain
Your blog is not boring. I love it, even if I don’t agree with some of the things you do or say, I always come back to read more 😉
I think Reese wants to keep their talk private. And I’m ok with that, she doesn’t need to give us every detail of her life.
I’m excited that you guys are working on your relationship. And he obviously realizes he can’t live without you and that’s why he wants to marry you.
Someone told me if something is important to you, you treat it differently, you treasure it and that’s what you have to do with your relationship.
Relationships are also about compromising. He’s giving in on the house, so just try to work with his budget. The house doesn’t have to be perfect, it’s just your first house together and it doesn’t have to be your forever home. Just show him that you value his opinion and listen to him by looking at cheaper options.
Congrats and keep up the good work!
wait was Brady high during that marriage converstion? or did he not smoke with them? I’m happy that you guys are finally happy again, I hope it stays this way!
of course he was. stoner
Ugh if only he could admit how much he loves you and wants to marry you when he’s sober!! Lol. Ohh and what is your ‘dream engagement ring’?? I’m totally curious
Glad things are going better … hopefully it continues.
Also hope Brady’s Dad is okay 😦
Glad things are better between you and Brady; keep communicating and hopefully it will continue 🙂
Also, I hope Brady’s dad is okay 😦