it seems premature.

Hey y’all. Today was so fun. Brady and I got brunch with Kendra and John. For Father’s Day, I got Brady and Tucker matching outfits from Brooks Brothers (this harness for Tucker and this shirt for Brady) and I insisted they both wear them to brunch. Brady protested a lot, but I finally won and took a ton of pictures to frame and also to display at our wedding and in our new house. It was just so adorable that I couldn’t help myself.

We ended up going to this vegan place up north near the lake. We had to change our original location because I insisted we find a place that allowed dogs because I needed everyone to see Brady and Tucker in their outfits. Brady was so embarrassed and I just don’t understand why.

“Oh, hi Tucker,” Kendra greeted us. She picked Tucker up and he sat in her lap for the entire meal.

“You know, dogs love pregnant women. They can just sense it,” I said.

Kendra smiled widely. “We were actually thinking of rescuing a dog. Probably something big. Maybe a lab mix.”

“But your place isn’t very big. The poor thing will want room to move around. And with a baby on the way…” I said.

“Yeah, but you know, the larger the dog, the lazier it is,” John said.

I suddenly got an idea. I turned to Brady. “In a few years, we should get another dog. After we’ve moved into our bigger place. We will have Tuck and a like, a husky or something.”

Before Brady could even say anything John said, “I can’t wait to see you dressed up with two dogs, man,” and started laughing.

I glared at him.

“Yeah, maybe,” Brady said. “I don’t want to take on too much.”

“It’ll be fine. That or we can have a baby right away,” I said. I glanced affectionately at Brady before smiling at Kendra and John.

Kendra let out a little laugh. “Reese, I have a hard time imagining you having a baby.”

I gave her a dirty look. “Well, that’s rude.”

“No, I mean it changes your life. Everything isn’t about you anymore, it’s about your baby. And as an only child, I don’t think you fully understand that. It isn’t just about dressing it up in cute clothes.”

Kendra hasn’t even had her baby (she hasn’t even had her first doctor’s appointment yet) and she’s already acting like she’s better than me. It’s so annoying. I know that life changes after having a baby which is why I have been on birth control for years. Duh!

Anyway, the other night Brady and I met up after work to have appetizers and drinks. Sometimes you just want to drink. We sat at the bar and ordered a pitcher of beer, mozzarella sticks and fries. We sat there talking about our days and laughing and having fun.

There was a guy sitting next to me at the bar who was also participating in a game of pool and he kept getting up and screaming at all the people he was playing with.

Finally I said, “Wow, are those your friends? I bet if I talked to my friends like that I’d get my way more often.”

He was an older man named Rich and not long into our conversation he informed me that he’s a Donald Trump supporter.

Immediately I got excited and elbowed Brady. “My boyfriend is a Trump supporter too!”

Brady glared at me before reaching out to shake Rich’s hand. Brady actually isn’t a Trump supporter and doesn’t want to identify as a Republican or Democrat, but I still give him shit about Donald Trump because technically, he’s registered as a Republican.

I’m not sure how or why, but we hung out with Rich for the rest of the evening and he ended up picking up our $145 bar tab. So pretending to be a Trump supporter pays off I guess.

Speaking of Trump, apparently Brady told his mom that he wanted to propose to me. I don’t know why he thought it was a good idea to tell her, but obviously she didn’t like it at all. He told her over the phone and she said, “Excuse me? You are not. We know nothing about her or her family.”

And then she said, “You will not do anything until both of you meet with our pastor.”

Brady relayed the story to me and tried to really vague, but I can just imagine what she said and the tone she used. She kept asking him a ton of questions (When does he want to propose? When do we want to get married? Do we plan to stay in Chicago? Am I pregnant?) and basically just freaked out. So now we are going to New York to see his parents next weekend. I don’t understand why Brady told his mom. It seems so premature. Like obviously, we’re going to get married, but I wanted to have a lot of it figured out before telling his parents. My parents will totally understand (especially because they adore Brady), but Brady’s just aren’t the same. I feel like his mom is going to do everything in her power to make sure it doesn’t happen. I feel like Brady’s mom wishes he was still with Anna. She’s smart and demure, polite and her parents are missionaries. Who wouldn’t want their son to marry that?

Oh! I have gossip. I think Scott is having an affair. He’s married, but he hardly ever talks about his wife. Sometimes I forget that she even exists. I had to beg him to see a picture a few weeks ago. He’s really open about checking out other girls, but I thought nothing of it (because men are pigs). Monica told me about the affair and at first I didn’t believe her because she gossips a lot (and honestly, I’m not trying to get involved in that even though it’s so addictive). But she pointed out the warning signs to me: he used to be the last person to leave the office every night, but lately he leaves at 4:30 or 5. Scott is a control freak so it’s really weird that he would leave that early. And a couple of times when he left, his wedding ring was off. And Scott is still married because his wife stopped by like last week. Plus he’s just been super happy. He’s generally a pleasant person, but lately he’s been even more pleasant than normal. Like walking around smiling, wanting to stop and talk all the time, kind of almost slacking off to socialize with us. And he’s on his phone  lot. I would assume it’s work related like checking his email, but he’s on it while he’s sitting in the front of the computer too. It’s bizarre. I don’t know. Maybe I’m just thinking the worst, but I totally think he’s cheating.

Let’s see, what else? Carly and Chris are coming for the July 4th holiday weekend which I’m so excited about. Carly and I haven’t talked much recently, but I really do miss her. And I think we need some bonding time. I’ve already made one full day of plans for us. I can’t wait.


12 thoughts on “it seems premature.

  1. Britt says:

    I’m so happy to hear that things are going well for you and Brady! (BTW, the matching harness and shirt is freakin’ adorable. Good choice)

    I honestly don’t know how Brady can tolerate the way his mother speaks to him. He’s a grown man; why does she feel the need to TELL him what he’s doing as if he’s a child? I know it will be hard and she will probably be super anal next weekend, but make sure to stand up for yourself and your relationship with Brady. The more you let things slide with his mother, the more she will continue to try to dictate your lives. I know you have stood up to her before, but perhaps you should sit down and have a talk with Brady in regards to how she blatantly disrespects your relationship. I mean, since his father is sick, wouldn’t his parents be thrilled to hear that you two are going to get married?

    Good luck next weekend and keep us posted! Also, Scott’s behaviour is definitely super shady. One of my married coworkers acted the exact same way… Ended up leaving his wife for the admin. He’s a sleazeball; let’s hope Scott isn’t!

    • I don’t know how he can tolerate that woman either. he always talks about how much he dislikes her but still does whatever she says and does a lot to appease her. idgi. but I’ll stand up for myself of course, I don’t really care what she thinks anymore. I’ve tried.

  2. e says:

    so happy about you and Brady! his mom is crazy, remember to be patient with her hahah

    I had totally forgotten about Carly!! what’s been going on with her? is she (still?) cheating on Chris? are they still getting married?

  3. Luita says:

    Wow! I can’t believe Brady told his mom, he’s planning to marry you, like he’s asking for her permission. I don’t get it! That lady is so controlling now I see why Hunter decided to elope.
    Seriously, you need to sit him down and tell him he needs to show more respect for you and your relationship. He can’t let his mom treat you poorly and decide what you guys need to do.
    You need to meet with their pastor? That is not ok, I’m a religious person I go to church every Sunday, so I understand that having God in your marriage is important, but what’s important to me is not the same for others. She needs to butt out, marriage is between 2 people only. From the beginning he needs to tell her, this is what Reese and I are doing, you either deal with it or you don’t but you don’t make decisions for us, of course in a very polite manner. You need to put your foot down from the beginning or else I can just see that lady deciding where you are getting married who you are inviting, and down the road baptisms for your kids and so on…..
    I would tell Brady to grow a pair because you need to a man not a boy that hides behind his momma. And if he brings up his dad’s illness as an excuse to not stand up to his mom right now, I call BS on that because he has never stood up to her, but he needs to start now if he wants to start a family with you.
    I like Brady, but that man runs away from everything to avoid a confrontation, he probably expects you to fight all the battles. If I were you I would just act like I agree with everything his mom says and see what he does. You just listen to her and nod, you don’t have to do things her way, but it wouldn’t hurt to pretend that you are going to.

    • yes, Brady is very passive. he just lets things happen without trying to fight it at all. it’s so frustrating. I didn’t even expect him to tell his mom that he wants to marry me, so I hope he surprises me by standing up to her about our wedding and marriage and everything too. we’ll see.

      • Luita says:

        If you want something to happen you need to make it happen. I know you don’t like talking either, but let him know what your expectations are, or else you’ll be very unhappy with the outcome. Men just don’t get it and they don’t get subtle hints either.
        I’m talking from experience, I’ve been disappointed many times cause I don’t get what I want, but then I realize that I didn’t say what I wanted either. So I’ve been unhappy in relationships and it’s been partly my fault, just partly cause I’m pretty perfect 😜.

  4. Sara says:

    “We know nothing about her or her family.”??? Um, WHAT? You have been dating her son for TWO YEARS. They have met you multiple times. They have met your parents at least once. Brady’s mom really is a piece of work. I know you want a flashy, cool wedding (I get that completely), but maybe you ought to think about doing what Hunter and Dom did and fly to Vegas or something. It would suck if Brady’s mom pissed all over your wedding day. And why would you even go to HER pastor?? I would imagine you would either get married in Chicago or Texas.

    • oh I FOR SURE understand why Hunter did what he did. we were thinking of doing the same thing honestly. I think you’re right about Chicago or Texas… definitely don’t want to get married in her domain so she can try to control everything. I think Chicago because it is the most neutral place and its me and Brady’s home

    • Luita says:

      Seriously! That comment made me mad too, Brady needs to learn to filter information to you. Does he want you to hate his mom? Not that the lady needs any help 🙄.

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