Hey y’all. Sorry for being MIA. So much to catch you up on though.
So Mike started being really nice to me at work, including me in everything and constantly asking for my opinion. And he was just like, softer. One day after a meeting, both of us stayed in the conference room kind of debriefing. And then he was telling me about how he became the senior vice president. How he’d sold mattresses right out of college and hated it even though he was really good at it. He realized that he wanted to do more. He wanted to elevate the company because he knew the potential was there. And after being given an opportunity to go work corporate, he increased sales of the entire company by 25% in just six months.
“How did you do that?” I asked.
“I thought like a consumer. That’s why a lot of companies don’t turn a profit. They think about the business, not about who makes the business. And you think like a consumer. That’s why you’re so successful here,” Mike said.
I nodded. “I mean, I am the ultimate consumer myself.”
Mike laughed. I’ve only seen Mike laugh or even smile a handful of times and never because of something I said or did. That conversation changed something. That evening after work, Mike texted me, “Nice talking to you today, Reese. And keep up the good work.”
The next morning Mike emailed me and asked me to stop by his office as soon as I got in.
“I want to see an increase in engagement,” he said as soon as I stepped in. “It’s not enough to just send email blasts everyday. Everyone’s doing it and no cares.”
I nodded. “Okay. So what did you have in mind?”
“You tell me. You’re the ultimate consumer.” Mike looked up at me and he actually smiled. He was actually treating me like a normal person who existed.
I walked out of Mike’s office and ran right into Scott, who was on his way in.
“Hey,” he greeted me. “Did you have a meeting with Mike?”
“Briefly. I can fill you in if you want,” I replied.
And I meant I could fill him in later after he finished his own meeting with Mike, but Scott followed me to my office right then. I felt kind of bad because it honestly wasn’t that important, but Scott is always the one saying he needs to know every time I talk to Mike and what we talked about. And then Scott sat in my office and proceeded to give me ideas for how to increase engagement for an hour.
Eventually I said, “If Mike wanted you to do this then wouldn’t he have asked you?”
Scott laughed, but I was totally serious.
Later on in the week, Scott invited me to lunch (on him) so I agreed. We mostly talked about some of the projects we’ve been working on and general company gossip (not about people, but about numbers and competitors).
And then Scott said, “You know, Mike really likes you. He thinks you’re doing really well.”
“Good. Mike’s opinion is important to me,” I said.
Scott smirked. “And mine isn’t?”
I rolled my eyes. “I didn’t say that. Everything isn’t always about you, Scott.”
“I know. I’m giving you a hard time. I hope you speak as highly of me when I’m not around too,” he said.
When we got back to our respective offices, Scott texted me, “For the record, I think you’re doing really well also. I’m glad to have you around.”
I said, “Thank you. Your opinion counts too. :-)”
Scott drunk texted me that weekend trying to get me to come meet him at the bar. I played with him for a little bit, pretending like I was going to come, until Brady wanted to know who was blowing up my phone. So then I felt bad and stopped texting back.
Scott’s last text message said, “I guess you aren’t coming. Fine. See you Monday.”
And so as soon as I saw Scott on Monday, I asked, “How was your weekend?” in front of everyone.
“Thank you, Reese. I had a nice weekend,” he said, avoiding eye contact.
And then when we both went to our respective offices, he texted me, “I wish I’d spent it with you though.”
Mike started giving me more assignments and responsibilities. I feel like he realized that I’m actually pretty smart and started trusting me to do things. He had a lunch meeting that ran late and texted me asking to start the company wide conference call. And one day he gave me his password so I could log into his account and text him some sales numbers while he was out of the office. Clearly he trusts me more than he trusts Scott if he’s giving me his password.
This went on for a couple weeks – Scott texting me when he was out and drinking, me responding by playing coy, but never actually meeting up with him. And Mike randomly asking me to come visit him in his office to give me new things to do or ask my opinion on things. Scott would text me all the time like, “What did Mike want?” or “Anything important?” Because I can’t talk to Mike without Scott knowing about it. He’s worse than my actual boyfriend.
One night Scott and I texted for several hours. We weren’t really talking about anything – drinking, bars, food, traveling. Nothing important. And then he said, “Can I tell you something honestly? With no repercussions?”
And of course I just wanted to know what his confession was so I said, “Sure.”
“I never expected to feel this way about you, but I really like you, Reese. More than I should. And I know I shouldn’t be telling you this, but I really want you to know.”
“I don’t know what to say…” was all I could think to respond.
“You don’t have to say anything. But I love you Reese.”
At this point I wanted to jump off a bridge. What the fuck? Why would Scott even think it was okay to say that to me? I suddenly regretted everything – meeting him at Starbucks, accepting a job offer from him, texting him and ever seeing him outside of work. I know it’s hard to hate me ( 🙂 ), but this was ridiculous.
Scott and I didn’t mention what he said again after that conversation, but we were both being nicer to each other. I tried to avoid him at work, but he’d send me meeting invites all the time and instant message me to ask if I was busy and did I work to get together to work? This sounds bad, but I was completely taking advantage of Scott’s confession. I knew that I could get my way at work no matter what. Whatever I requested, Scott said yes. And he was actually putting me in charge of things and giving me the responsibilities that I wanted so I couldn’t complain.
It was all fun and games until Brady went through my phone one night. Brady doesn’t ever go through my phone – like ever, so I didn’t think I had anything to worry about. But I’d given him my passcode so he could print something from my email and I guess Scott texted me while he had my phone. And Brady confronted me (Reese style) when I walked in the kitchen.
“Scott says he’s thinking about you,” Brady mumbled.
“Are you having an affair with your boss, Reese?” he asked.
“No! Are you kidding?” I exclaimed.
“He said he’s in love with you. Isn’t he married?”
“But what? I don’t understand how you’re going to try to talk your way out of this one.” Brady handed my phone to me and stormed out.
I followed him to the living room where he was pulling his laptop out. I sat down next to him on the couch.
“Listen, I know it looks bad, but it isn’t what you think,” I said.
“Reese, just leave me alone right now. I don’t care what you do,” Brady said.
I sat there watching him for a few minutes until I realized that he was right and that I was 100% in the wrong. I should have stopped Scott the moment he started making inappropriate passes at me.
Brady didn’t talk to me for the entire week and both of us spent a lot of time at work. I was frustrated with myself and also Scott, but only took it out on Scott. It was his fault for falling in love with me obviously. (And honestly, what made him think he was in love with me anyway? I’m nothing but a huge bitch to him and he really knows nothing about me at all outside of work).
One day Scott and I got in a huge disagreement about the way he runs his business. I obviously think I could do a much better job, but I also think there’s a ton of stuff I don’t know because Scott won’t teach me. He prefers to do everything himself and then makes me do stupid shit like organize files. And I like to remind him that I didn’t go into student loan debt to organize files.
“Scott, you’ll never get out of your current position if you don’t ever train anyone. You have to invest in your employees. If you don’t think I’m capable of handling this stuff then why did you hire me?” I said.
“I think you’re capable of doing my job and much more, Reese,” he said in his stupid accent.
“Then will you please let me actually do things? I’m not a child,” I said.
“I know you’re not a child. If you want to do more things, I’m more than happy to let you. Just let me know what you want to do and I will let you,” Scott said.
So I demanded to do everything hence why I was working my ass off and not spending much time at home. No complaints though.
Friday afternoon, I came home from work and Brady was already home and changed into regular clothes.
“Hey, Hunter is coming this weekend. I just thought I’d let you know,” he said.
“K,” I replied, passing him.
“I’m getting him from the airport now…if you want to come.”
I agreed and during the long drive to O’Hare on a Friday afternoon, we somewhat made up. I say somewhat because we argued about Scott for a little while before Brady finally changed the subject and we didn’t talk about it anymore. I was just glad that we were speaking again.
On Friday night, the three of us went to a couple of bars to hang out. Do y’all remember that red head chick Hunter met at Mariano’s last time he was here? I was shocked and confused when she showed up at the bar.
She skipped in and gave Hunter and big hug then said hi to me and Brady. I turned to Brady like, “What’s this broad doing here?” and he shrugged.
The ginger hung out with us all night until the last bar when she said she was calling it a night. And to my horror, Hunter turned to Brady and said, “I’ll meet you back at your place.”
I said, “Don’t you think you should just come with us right now?”
Hunter looked at me and then to Brady and then Brady looked at me and said, “Come on, let’s go to the bar.”
“He’s going to cheat on Dom, isn’t he?” I said as we walked away.
“It isn’t any of our business,” Brady said.
“Yes it is. Are you just going to let that happen?” I continued.
Brady ignored me and walked into the next bar. I was so disgusted by it all that I couldn’t even finish my drink and just watched while Brady kept drinking and making friends.
Hunter came home at like 7:30 the next morning. I heard Brady get up to buzz him in then get back in bed. And being the nosy bitch that I am, I got up to greet Hunter.
“Wow, walk of shame, huh?” I said.
Hunter grinned and shrugged.
“I thought you were better,” I said, honestly.
“You’ll understand when you’re married and have kids. It isn’t easy,” he said.
“It isn’t easy to not cheat on your spouse?” I clarified. “You know, last I checked it wasn’t hard to not be a shitty person.”
Brady appeared next to me. “Reese. Stop.”
Hunter looked at Brady and rolled his eyes like I was being crazy or ridiculous. And maybe I was. I don’t know why I was so concerned about him and his relationship, but I just thought about how Dom must feel being at home taking care of the children alone while her husband is having sex with some random woman in Chicago.
Brady wasn’t happy with me for confronting Hunter even though Hunter deserved it so I was not invited to hang out with them for the rest of the weekend.
I really need to get ready for work tomorrow, but I have so much more to tell y’all. So look for another post later this week! Love you!!!!!
14 thoughts on “he’s worse than my actual boyfriend.”
Wow, the whole Hunter thing is fucked up. I don’t think you were in the wrong for acting in the way that you did. And how can Brady be so nonchalant about it? I don’t buy the whole ‘it’s not our business’ thing. Hunter is his brother, what he’s done is so obviously wrong that he should call him out on it. I just don’t understand how Brady could shrug it off like that. I agree with you. Dom seems like a major bitch, but that was an extremely shitty thing to do. If my boyfriend didn’t seem to care much about the fact that his married brother slept with someone else, then I would be seriously questioning his morals.
I find it kind of… ironic? That Brady has no issue w hunter cheating on his wife but gets mad that Scott is blowing up your phone. At least you haven’t actually cheated. And it’s not your fault he’s in love with you but you do need to take a huge step back and just make a whole lot of space between Scott and you. You need a professional relationship w him, full stop.
yes! ironic. it’s hard to distance myself from Scott when I report directly to him. I’ve tried the whole avoiding him thing but it doesn’t work.
You have the choice as to whether or not you respond to personal text messages from him.
Funny how Brady is freaking out about Scott being married and possibly cheating on his wife with you, but has nothing to say about his own brother cheating on his wife. I find it really disheartening the way Brady is just okay with Hunter cheating on his wife and even getting mad at you for trying to step in and stop Hunter from making a mistake. Says a lot about his character.
Yeah the fact of Brady being ok with the Hunter thing freaks me out a lot. So when Brady goes to visit them do they smile and smirk when Brady does the same? (not saying he does, but not sure how Brady can be ok with it)
i get Brady’s point and who knows if they have talked about this before he came. It could be that he has told his brother his opinion and tried to stop him but sometimes there is no arguing with someone you just have to let them crash and burn. And who knows maybe Dom and Hunter have an open marriage. I know people who cheat and while I hate the fact they do that sometimes you do just have to go with its none of your business cause you can’t change people.
I get why Brady is more upset with you then Hunter because it effects his life he is in a relationship with you not Hunter. Even though you haven’t cheated you also haven’t stopped the conversations that have nothing to do with work. Although good on you for realizing and admitting you were in the wrong that shows growth.
I wouldn’t worry about Hunter right now you have Scott to deal with and Brady to calm down. You said your piece so now you have to just let it be. But totally don’t hang out with the douche!!
Take a huge step back from Scott, Like if its not work related don’t reply to texts or calls etc. You’re setting yourself up to be in a really bad situation….you have an ‘in’ with Mike so use it to your advantage. I would share some info with him about how scott is on the job, constantly hounding you for info on your meetings and convos with Mike, Not adequately training you guys so you will have to rely on him instead of succeeding in your roles, and inappropriately texting you and you’re in the position of feeling like even though its moved from innocent beginnings to uncomfortable and inappropriate and you feel that you are obliged/have to reply/maintain an out of work “friendship” or your job could/will be compromised since he is your direct supervisor. Scott is as pain. Deal with it ASAP. no more excuses!. + its good that you realize you were in the wrong with brady-scott thing, but own it. Apologize then PROVE to him you are dealing with it properly. Its all good and well to say sorry but your follow up actions mean more than the words themselves.
Brady not giving a shit about Hunter is totally a red flag. Remember when John cheated on Kendra and he seemingly didn’t care and didn’t tell you about it? I wonder if his dad cheated on his mom or something and so they both grew up not thinking it’s a big deal for guys to do? Pretty hypocritical considering how he flips out on you for flirting despite knowing it’s generally harmless and a ploy for attention (that you need as a person- no hate!).
About Scott, we have all had someone be obsessed with us and we don’t reciprocate the feeling. I agree that a step back and a firm no would be good for both of your sanities. And maybe reassure Brady that you don’t want to be with Scott?
Glad to hear from you again!! Was hoping all was good ❤
Sorry, Reese’s flirting is completely innocent? So when she was at the bar with Scott and let him get touchy freely that was innocent? I think it’s the pot calling the kettle black situation here. Reese has sought attention from many other men and now to act high and mighty about hunter! She has no clue what Brady and his brother talk about and whether Brady told his brother that cheating is wrong. She needs to stop acting so self righteous. Honestly she’s encouraged Scott, never stopped his advances and now readers are up in arms saying she should tell mike how uncomfy she is? Where is her accountability? Everything is always someone else’s fault and Brady is overreacting or Scott is a jerk. Where is Reese’s fault?
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It’s not necessarily a red flag. Maybe Brady knows more than Reese does. Maybe he’s already tried to talk to Hunter and it hasn’t worked and he’s just staying away. Maybe he just doesn’t want to get involved. We don’t have enough information to just assume.
You already wrote that you realize that Brady was right about Scott and your texting interaction, so I won’t bother to carry on with the subject, but I will point out that the shoe has been on the other foot in the past regarding Brady and HIS texting habits so it should be easy to empathize with his feelings, here. Still, on a purely professional level, Scott crossed a line and that could get really messy. If he brings it up again, be straight with him: it’s not appropriate to say things like that to you, you don’t feel the same way and it is a permanently taboo topic. This could be ugly if you don’t put the kibosh on this situation.
As to Hunter, you called him on his shit, said your piece and now let it go. What he is doing is really awful, leaving Dom with two little kids and having a thing with the redhead (who is, worse, NOT a random, since he obviously has been in touch with her and contacted her to let her know he was in town, which makes it an even yuckier situation. Hell, maybe she doesn’t even know he is married, so she is also being played.), but Dom is not your friend and would likely NOT welcome you saying anything to her, given her previous attitude. Whatever she and Hunter have as their marriage boundaries is between them. If she WAS a friend,then you might push the issue, but given the weird aspects of Brady’s family, involving yourself here would likely be counterproductive (to put it mildly). And Brady’s attitude? His not saying anything to his brother is not a sign that he is like that himself, so going after an idea of guilt by association is, IMHO, not fair to him. He comes from a family where communication is minimal and confrontation is avoided at all costs. That’s how his family survives. It sucks, but that’s reality. Now is a good time for YOU, though,to talk to Brady about your texting (admit you were wrong and PROMISE not to do that again) and also talk to him alone about the Hunter situation. I mean what does he REALLY think about it? Let him know that you are bothered by his complacency. What did he think about John cheating? Not that “none of my business” stuff. It’s a dialog with him on morals and ethics. How does he feel about his friend and his brother being cheaters? Obviously, the idea of cheating bothers him or he would not have blown his top over finding those texts from Scott, but this is a good opportunity to actually talk about fidelity and relationship boundaries.